Posted on 02/09/2005 7:48:01 PM PST by Rakkasan1
St. Paul - A man who allegedly put a 13-year-old girl in a dog kennel for days at a time, hit her, read her diary, and strip searched her, was charged this week with unreasonable restraint of a child.
Eric Bare, 42, of St. Paul, admitted to child protection workers that he did lock the teenager in the kennel on two different occasions, once for three consecutive days, and once for seven consecutive days. Bare said that he "fixed up the kennel nice" and that it was "a suitable temporary living arrangement."
Bare is not the girl's father, but she called him dad, according to charges.
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I guess I didn't have good sense at 13...THANK GOD YOU DID!!(and I mean that!)
Personally, I don't know how many women can identify with being able to defend themselves at age 13, especially in times gone by. Perhaps today, girls are receiving "fight back" training at an earlier age, but when I was growing up all the abuse was kept silent.
You probably think they should be of opposite sex too.
You're so, you know, old fashioned.
Growing up, there was nothing I didn't tell my mother, except that I learned how to open a pack of cigarettes (cost 15-cents), remove two and re-seal the cellophane. Otherwise, I never stole even a nickel from her.
Her parental wisdom, "Don't let people touch you in certain places." She also instilled in me a fear of getting "diseases."
God bless her soul! Raising me alone was not easy, for on occasion, I did rebel at authority. That could be what "saved" me - not good sense at all. :)
See #104. Yes, I too think abuse was kept more silent, except that I was a big blabbermouth. I know it was kept silent when my mother was young.
Thank you very much for posting that. I'm glad I read it.
The crimes that were committed could have easily happened no matter what the marital status was and really have little if anything to do with this. Do you really think the child would have been safe if these two sociopaths had been married? All you've done by jumping on your judgemental soapbox is steer the discussion away from 1 very abused little girl who could very well use our prayers.
I ask again
What KIND OF people, have live in boyfriends when they have children?
I think we have found the problem here...Lauralee is judging people for things she obviously has no clue about.
Lauralee...do you have children? Have you ever been subjected to the hell of trying to raise children on your own? Do you still live at home with your parents? Have you tried to live on your own with only one income? How about live on your own with one income and 2 or 3 mouths to feed?
Once again, WHAT TYPE OF PEOPLE HAVE LIVE IN BOYFRIENDS AND CHILDREN.
What type of person has a child and has a live in boyfriend for 7 years.
So basically if I 2 or 3 mouths to feed, I should go out and get a dirtbag boyfriend who will make my daughter squat in a dog cage. SORRY but no.
Basically I am saying this woman was not a good parent.
Basically, I don't really care about this woman. I doubt this was the first incident. She compromised her daughters welfare because she wanted to be with a dirtbag.
I care about the 13 year old. She is the victim here, lets not forget that.
What happened to this child is tragic! I agree with that...and that she is the true victim. But you are generalizing this whole mess.
Just because it happened here, doesn't mean it happens in all relationships. You are judging people (single parents) and trying to insist they live by your standards, or be judged by society! You don't have that right!
You have hurt several people by your judgemental comments. Too bad this is so close to our hearts where your insensitive comments are able to cause us pain.
LOL Reminds of an old joke:
Warning To Teenagers
Welcome to the wonderful world of being a teenager. By now you will have noticed that you, like most other teenagers, know everything there is to know. This is a wonderful thing to experience, and something only teenagers and God have been able to master.
Do not let this epiphany make you become complacent. All around you are people who have lost this Great Knowledge. They have squandered it on frivolous things like jobs, responsibilities and ethics, compassion for the meek, hurt and needful. They have completely lost themselves trying to understand other's pain and withholding judgement, but the worst part of all is, they're old!
Save Yourselves O Gifted Teenagers!! Get Out while there is still time!! Show those fools how easy it is to make money and friends, and don't let anyone get in the way!! You will be admired for your ruthlessness, don't ever give an inch! Why, if you need wisdom, you'll be so rich you can buy it!!
:~)
Right, okay.
I have compassion for the daughter NOT the mother.
Living with a man for 7 years and subjecting your child to a man as a father figure- A MAN who won't marry has problems with commitment and clearly doesn't love you. OR your child. If he loved you he would marry you.
K?
But I'm 18 I'm stupid.
I don't profess to know everything either. But I'm not like most 18 year olds.
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