Posted on 02/07/2005 2:15:11 PM PST by KidGlock
Why Women Cheat
Expert Reveals Warning Signs
UPDATED: 10:18 am EST February 7, 2005
CLEVELAND -- When you think about cheating spouses, most people think about men, Cleveland television station WEWS reported.
The station reported that the latest trend has more women stepping out on their husbands, and found one story illustrating it.
She was a mother of three who had just celebrated her 10th wedding anniversary.
That night, she told her husband she was going out with her girlfriends. Instead, she went to meet her lover, the station reported.
Mike Lewis is a private investigator at Cleveland's Confidential Investigations Inc.
He has been in the surveillance business for almost a decade. And more husbands are calling him about their cheating wives.
"What they always say, the not knowing is the hardest part. And that's where we come in," Lewis said.
Another woman told her husband she was on a business trip. Instead, she flew to spend the weekend with her boyfriend, the station reported.
"Got 'em kissin," Lewis said.
After watching a video, her husband finally figured out why their marriage was on the rocks.
"Gotta be frustrating because you guys were trying to work it out," Lewis said.
Just how many married women have had sex with other men?
In 1991, researchers asked married women if they had cheated. Ten percent said yes. Compare that to 22 percent of married men who said they had cheated.
In 2002, researchers asked again. That number grew to 15 percent for women, while the percentage of men who cheated stayed the same.
"It's either something they're missing in their relationship, or it's how they're feeling about themselves," said Kathy Dawson, of the Marriage Movement.
Dawson is a relationship coach, the author of "Diagnosis Marriage" and "Cleveland Couples." She helps couples reconnect. Even after infidelity.
"No. 1, if your wife says, 'You don't listen to me.' Oh boy, that's a big signal. Women, No. 1, need is to feel listened to and validated," Dawson said.
A wife starved for attention at home can find herself in the arms of another man. Dawson said when husbands don't make wives feel good about themselves, watch out for the man who does.
"For a man, the most important thing he can do for his wife is to pay attention to her feelings, and listen to her. It doesn't mean he has to agree with everything she says. He just has to prove to her that he heard what she said," Dawson said.
Mike Lewis agrees. In his experience, he found that sometimes a cheating spouse may even let you know what's about to happen.
"Sometimes they do communicate before they cheat. Sometimes they say, 'I'm not getting this. I'm not getting that.' And it falls on deaf ears," Lewis said.
But in the end, the decision to cheat is made by only one person.
"Are you willing to pay the price? Because there is a price. There's the price of how you feel about yourself. If you have children, if they find out, how are they going to react? Sooner or later they're going to find out," Dawson said.
For the husbands mentioned in this story, the infidelity was too much for the marriage. Both divorced soon after. But cheating does not have to mean the end of a marriage.
"It's pretty devastating. Is it a deal killer? No. Are you going to have to work your tail off? Yes. Can you're marriage be stronger? Absolutely," Dawson said.
Been there, dated that...
And on that note, I gotta go to work.
WOW! Rude. Ignorant. And presumptive.
This has to be one of most classless posts that I've seen from someone not directly involved in a dispute.
Congratulations!
It took me until the third one to get house broken. :)
Yes, I can see how pulling out a dictionary to demonstrate the actual definition of a word is a sign of defeat.
Not
LOL
I've met a few so-called goddesses, and they were not very conservative, at all ...
My wifes best compliment she ever gave me, and she still strongly believes it, as demonstrated in her actions:
"You're not the kind of man a sane woman would throw away."
Of course you don't. Who does?
But if you don't take the risk of getting hurt again, you will never know the ecstacy of being in love. There is no greater feeling, no higher high, than that of being in love.
Prison rape, maybe even moreso than an out of prison rape, is not about sex. It's about power.
To quote "Bowling for Soup"....she's still preoccupied with 1985...
Not all sexual relations in prison involve rape, although many prisoners agree to play the female role for protection more than anything else.
You haven't met this one.
Do a search on her posts.
Then try to find a better, more articulate conservative.
Do you think they are doing it to prove their independence or that they can be just like men? I think it is to be just like men.
She has a deceptive name, maybe on purpose ? lol
Protection and domination derived from POWER.
Yeah, there is consensual sex, but it's mostly based on the power.
Men don't become homosexuals because there are no women available. It's a choice that they have already made and happens when desire meets opportunity.
It appears to me that eventually all partners start to look at someone else, but how do you stop those thoughts, is it just because it's wrong? What about people that do not have those morals and ethics? More and more people are losing morality. This, in my opinion, is why more people(especially women) are cheating.
What's deceptive?
If you have ever met a goddess you should know what I'm talking about. New age, sexually open, probably bi sexual, green herbal teas. You get the picture.
until you get them americanized
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