Posted on 02/01/2005 1:34:24 AM PST by The Loan Arranger
"The so-called sexual revolution is not, as advertised, a liberation of sexual behavior but rather its reversal. In former days, even under Victoria, sexual intercourse was the natural end and culmination of heterosexual relations. Now one begins with genital overtures instead of a handshake, then waits to see what will turn up (e.g., might become friends later). Like dogs greeting each other nose to tail and tail to nose."
Walker Percy, The Last Gentleman (1966) Nineteen sixty-six, the year in which Walker Percy's The Last Gentleman was published, is also the year I entered as a first-yearman at the University of Virginia. We did not stoop to the State U level of referring to ourselves as freshmen, sophomores, and such—not at "The University." We were all men at U.Va.—"gentlemen," we were told. Young women visited on weekends from Sweet Briar and Randolph-Macon, Mary Washington, and Hollins College. But they did not stay in the dormitory or the fraternity house. They stayed in college-approved housing, more often than not the home of a widow who had a few rooms to let and happily accepted a delegation from the colleges to assume the responsibilities of in loco parentis.
Parietal rules were enforced even in the fraternity houses—self-enforced by those of us who lived in them. Young women were not permitted in the bedrooms and had to be out of the house by a certain hour. We dated, blind-dated often. We did not know what "hooking up" was. We had never heard of date rape either, though some of us may have committed it.
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I have never read anything that was so point blank dead on......
and its why I fear for America and its Christians......
I can tell you, too, that boys are sometimes more physically ... assertive than they really want to be because it seems like that's what's necessary to get a girl to take them seriously as bf material and stick around.
Aarrgh. That's one I hadn't heard, probably because most of what I read is aimed at girls and their parents. Our oldest daughter is 13, oldest son is 10, so we have to do the Teenage Girl thing first!
Are you serious? The attraction is the sex. That's the point. In case you haven't noticed, sex is fun. People like it. THAT'S the attraction. It's the same reason people drink to excess or use drugs or drive fast sports cars. Because it's fun and because it feels good.
"Chi-O, Chi-O, it's off to bed we go..."
Ping
Is that seriously any different than walking all the way up one flight of stairs to the girls' floor? Or even walking the whole 50 feet to the girls' dorm in the next building?
I think you're making a little bit of a artifical distinction here. In single-sex dorms, maybe the girls aren't right across the hall, but it ain't like they're far away. Heck, in my single-sex dorm, I saw more than my fair share of unclad women in our shower.
It's entirely possible to entirely circumvent the college sex scene - its one of the reasons I associated myself primarily from friends from Campus Crusade, where the guys struggled to maintain moral purity.
My generation lives in a sex-drenched culture where movies such as American Pie have convinced us that our value is determined by our sexuality. In such an over-sexed culture, its small wonder that men and women engage in random relationships.
How fun is it to get dumped? How fun is it to wonder if you're pregnant by some guy who's name you don't remember? How fun is it to fool around with someone hoping they'll actually find you interesting enough to call back? What kind of fun ends with a "walk of shame"?
Sex with your wife who loves you and is completely committed to you and is your best friend on earth ... now that's fun, but better than that, it's a foretaste of heavenly glory.
Excellent point.
Bump.
Besides the pregnancy, no strings sex answers all of these questions. Look: I'm not defending it, but I'm telling you the appeal. How fun is it to get dumped? It ain't fun--but if you've got no-strings sex, you aren't going to get dumped. You've got the fun of sex without the emotional risk.
Once again, the calling back is the same way--no strings sex is sex without the emotional risk. And there's not much of a "walk of shame." You wake up, shake hands, and go on your way. Thanks very much, it's been fun. As for the pregnancy, there are obvious means of prevention here.
You ask what the appeal is, and I think it's pretty obvious. I'm not defending it and I'm not arguing that there aren't a lot of values in a long-term committed relationship. But to question why people do this? That's pretty naive, I think.
That takes a mature, even a sanctified, mindset to understand.
To the average person my age, "getting laid" is paramount. Finding a wife with whom to share a relationship is theoretically nice, but I guess, given the breakdown of American families, there's a cynicism amongst my peers. A loving relationship is the ideal; getting it on is imperative.
You've got to have a mind regenerated by the Holy Spirit to understand the greater truth your statement conveys. Most young people don't have that.
NSA is strictly benefitting the boys.
You haven't tried to date lately have you? You must be married.
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