Men Just Want Mommy

New York Times ^ | January 13, 2005 | Maureen Dowd

[bdeaner]

What this article fails to acknowledge is the role women play in the scenario. Women who have the goods (looks, brains, money) look for guys who have more goods (more brains, more money). Women trade looks for economic resources or at least the promise of them (e.g., brains). This has been established in a wide variety of studies.

In actuality, men are much less picky than women when it comes to choosing mates.

[somerville]

Excuse my ignorance - what are the Pauline epistles ?

[HowlinglyMind-BendingAbsurdity]

And...power, wealth, and High IQ WITHOUT love do not make you happy. Apparently, someone forgot to teach Ms. Dowd this lesson in college.

[HowlinglyMind-BendingAbsurdity]

It's a sad and harsh lesson....but any guy with more brains, more looks, more power, and more wealth can do a lot better than Maureen Dowd.

[lentulusgracchus]

Time to blow your neural circuits out along with the Manhattan power liberal ontological categories.

Sure those aren't epistemological categories instead?

[ArGee]

I was wondering when someone would post that. I was going to if I didn't see it soon.

Shalom.

[Moonman62]

Smart AND sweet sounds like the perfect woman to me. What I don't want is an angry, bitter, overly competitive woman who brings the day's battles home to refight them there.

Amen.

[duckbutt]

Mo Dowd - - on her way to becoming Helen Thomas if she doesn't change her attitude/ways/life/thought pattern.....

[ArGee]

Nice people care about their family and friends, jack$$es care about themselves.

Bingo. And you're right. It's not a gender issue. And the Women's Movement was originally created because of men who behaved like jack$$es. However, their solution was to learn to be jack$$es also, which was stupid to the nth degree.

Shalom.

[Rytwyng]

Correction:

I think she's right. MOST men just want a MOMMY. Someone WIFE to cook, clean and take care of them.

Is this a new idea?

No, it's an old one that the feminists rejected.

[Goodgirlinred]

To have a good marriage a woman does not have to be subservient. Wherever did you get that idea? My late husband and I had a wonderful marriage for 33 years until his untimely death from cancer. I was never subservient, and we married when I was 18 and he was 23.

[ArGee]

If that's the way you want to read it. However, there is a whole collection of books that define the characteristics of a good man. This one portion of a chapter that defines the characteristics of a good woman doesn't negate those other books.

And they don't support any model of a man who sits around doing nothing.

A man should marry a woman who works her ass off so he can sit with the elders.

The point of the phrase you focused in on is that part of the reward for being a good woman is that your man will also be rewarded.

If you love him, that will motivate you.

Shalom.

[HowlinglyMind-BendingAbsurdity]

Both. The way that reality is defined and the alleged mode of its apprehension. Since we're dealing with Manhattan liberal power games, we could also speak of the way that reality is mythologized. Hence, her mythological categories may be in need of retooling.

She looks very controlling in that photo. A B12 shot probably wouldn't hurt either.

[Terabitten]

Heh, yeah, I saw that. You just never know where a Moro Islamic Liberation Front is going to pop up. In fact, just the other day, I was at the grocery store in the produce aisle, when suddenly... a Moro Islamic Liberation Front, right there in front of me. They can be anywhere, I tell you, anywhere.

[HamiltonJay]

Works for me man. Now who here runs a place willing to produce, drop ship and deal with ordering of the T-Shirts?

[Jim Noble]

What this article fails to acknowledge is the role women play in the scenario. Women who have the goods (looks, brains, money) look for guys who have more goods (more brains, more money). Women trade looks for economic resources or at least the promise of them (e.g., brains). This has been established in a wide variety of studies.

Very good!

I posted this before going for minor surgery, now I'm back and 203 replies!

Every single "men are afraid of strong women" article, every nauseating one of them, uses feminist ju-jitsu to take something good about men (open to a wide spectrum of partners, not restricted in love interest to riches, fame, careeer prospects, etc) and turn that sterling male characteristic into something bad (aftraid of strong women).

All of the prototype MoDo clones that she and her sick sisters write about, on the other hand, are searching for men in the tiniest of tiny social strata-smarter than they are, richer than they are, more career-oriented than they are, and, most importantly, more powerful than they are.

IOW, they're looking for Daddy.

Only, after you are a partner-track lawyer worth 1-5M you are 35 years old, and the few comparable males (and they are very, very few) have already had the wisdom to marry someone who could focus on them and not on themselves.

Having a caring wife is probably the greatest fast-track career enhancer that exists. Fast-track women will never have that.

I have much more to say, but I'm still a little woozy from my visit to the surgicenter this AM.

It is an embarrasment that MoDo gets ink, even in the NYT.

Mo-nobody wants you. Get over it.

[Politicalmom]

I agree completely. I just get really annoyed at the bitter men railing against women on FR. I don't think one will find too many voracious, selfish women running around here. : )

I am a SAHM, raising three NON-feminist girls.(and a boy, who will be the death of me!) They are SMART, but I am doing my best to see they aren't selfish along with it.

[HowlinglyMind-BendingAbsurdity]

Mo Dowd - - on her way to becoming Helen Thomas if she doesn't change her attitude/ways/life/thought pattern..... 208 posted on 01/13/2005 7:59:38 AM PST by duckbutt

LOL!

[Goodgirlinred]

The NOT could be HOT with different clothes and a smile and a toss of her head, don't you think? Of course, I am a woman and I don't know what you guys find hot, but she could look more attractive.

[Dan from Michigan]

I wondered what in the blue hell this tripe was until I saw who wrote it...Dowdy. No wonder why it made no sense.