To have a good marriage a woman does not have to be subservient. Wherever did you get that idea? My late husband and I had a wonderful marriage for 33 years until his untimely death from cancer. I was never subservient, and we married when I was 18 and he was 23.
I didn't say that that was the only possible way to have a happy marriage. Though I've never personally witnessed a happy marriage between two people who were both devoted to their careers, I don't deny the possibility such a marriage might exist.
Btw, 'subservience' is not necessarily a bad word in my book, feminazis' and narcissists' protestations notwithstanding.
A mature understanding of subservience --for both men and women-- is, I believe, at the heart of Christian culture, and the first step in the road to happiness.
Congratulations on your previous happy marriage, and good luck for the future.