You both need to read the comment below,from this thread:
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1303549/posts?q=1&&page=1
{BTW, you are both very, very wrong. Homosexuals take advantage of kids who are in need of emotional support generally due to poor parenting. Homosexuals prey on weakness. You cannot blame a young kid for not resisting a relationship which often starts non-sexual. And when the culture is telling kids that "gay is good", they have not internalized moral guidelines to help them. All you are doing is lending the homosexual chicken hawks credibility, which is disgusting.)
To: robertpaulsen; little jeremiah; dsc; sportutegrl; broadsword; MineralMan; andie74
"But I find it absolutely incredible that a teen would put up with this "abuse" for seven frickin' years without uttering a word to anyone, or trying to remove themselves from the situation."
(little jeremiah, you can ping the rest of the list to this post if you feel it would be worthwhile)
RP. Let me clear something up for you by sharing a little of my history.
My father had no clue as to how to raise children. As a result neither myself nor my older brother had a good relationship with him. Because of the way he treated my brother, my brother wanted nothing to do with dad. He didn't want to be like him in any way. Even to the point of getting trapped in Same-sex Attraction disorder (SAD). (yes, my brother is a faggot and hates my dad to this day). Boys need adult male attention. If they don't get it in a healthy way from their fathers then they'll be more vulnerable to getting it in an abusive way from someone else.
I was in this same exact circumstance as the boy from the article when I was 13. My parents had gotten a divorce and while dad was still around we had never had a good relationship. He was interested in bowling and golf and dartball and doing what he wanted to do and I was just someone to do work around the house and be beaten if I got out of line.
One day my brother brought home one of his older friends who was supposedly a psychologist doing studies on SADs. (In reality he was a SAD himself looking for fresh meat). This guy recognized the need in me for adult attention and took advantage of it. (Don't kid yourself people, the signs of emotionally neglected children are very easy to detect and very easy to take advantage of. That's why every SAD must be considered, and treated as a molester when it comes to being around kids)
Over a period of a couple months he 'seduced' and molested me. The first step was to give me that male attention that every boy needs. He was very affirming (you're a great young man. etc) and attentive. He took me places and we did things together. (exactly what Big Brothers are supposed to be doing).
But then things changed. He molested me one night and I was left very confused. It was not a violent thing at all (and I'd guess for most victims it is never violent. Why scare off the fresh meat). Physically it felt good. (the genitals have a mind of their own and don't really care how they are made to feel good). Mentally, I knew that it was wrong. But I liked this guy and trusted him, he had become a father figure to me. So I didn't turn him in.
Life would have been much better for me if I had put a bullet in his head that same day.
So over the course of several years the abuse continued. While the mental anguish was always there he was giving me the attention that I so desperately needed. What do I choose, give up the adult attention that I wasn't getting from my dad or turn the guy in for being a pervert? I wasn't strong enough to do without the attention. (Cut me some slack here I was just a kid) The only thing that stopped the abuse was when he moved to a different state. Of course I never (except once) heard from him again. In hindsight his whole plan is perfectly clear.
While my family was suspicious. (Mothers and Fathers: NEVER let your kids stay over night at any single man's house. NEVER! No matter what they tell you.) They thought everything was OK because I told them it was OK. I was a pretty bright, apparently strong kid and they knew I'd not let myself get into trouble.
What they didn't know was that inside I had this huge hole that only a dad could fill and I was trying to fill it another way. That only left me wallowing in shame and guilt.
There are three characteristics shared by almost all SADs. Being sexual or mentally abused, Having a poor relationship with one's father and being relentlessly teased by one's peers during the formative years. I unfortunately suffered under all of these.
After several years struggling with my sexual identity, God blessed me and saved me. I can look back now and see that He kept me from falling off the deep end so many times and He kept me from doing permanent damage to myself or others.
I eventually met a beautiful young lady and got married but still struggled with wrong thoughts and feelings of guilt and shame. God again blessed me and restored my innocence. But first I had to forgive my attacker and realize that he too was mentally ill and had been victimized.
For some reason you can't really forgive yourself (even though you've done nothing wrong) until you forgive your attacker.
No one is a 'homosexual' they are only mentally ill due to trauma. Some choose to get well and others choose to remain sick. God helped me choose to get well.
So cut the kid from the article some slack. Unless you've been in his shoes you can't really understand.
40 posted on 12/20/2004 6:05:34 AM PST by John O (God Save America (Please))
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Like I said:
"I think on one level or another both people are needing (or missing), something and both people choose to either actively participate or not to actively resist."
-doesn't sound wrong to me...sounds like we're saying the same thing only you chose to give us all the details.
You obviously did not read my comment I made earlier... I am saying that both parties are responsible to an extent.