Posted on 10/03/2004 6:42:45 AM PDT by ejdrapes
Split families damage society The former punk rocker has emerged as an unlikely champion of the family, arguing that marriage should be taken more seriously and greater value should be attached to domestic life. Speaking in a television documentary, Geldof on Marriage, he says: Marital breakdown costs the state about £15 billion a year and most of that is spent on single-parent benefits. I know its uncool, and I truly have no desire to cause upset or offence by saying this, but the truth of every study is clear: dual-parent upbringing produces healthier, better educated children. Thats it. The consequences of divorce, on the other hand, are dire, he says. Children of divorced parents are much more likely to do worse at school, commit crimes, go to prison and more likely to commit suicide. Divorced men live shorter lives than married men and are more likely to get cancer. He blames the because Im worth it society for leading people to abandon marriages for what he regards as self- indulgent reasons. We hop from product to product, channel to channel, station to station and, most damagingly, lover to lover, trading each one in for a new model as soon as passion fades, he says. Perhaps a lot of it is down to an overblown sense of self. We imagine ourselves to be free people, but we should not be free to destroy others, especially children. We have confused freedom with the idea of choice, we have become voracious consumers, not just of stuff, but of the soul. Geldof, former lead singer with the Boomtown Rats who was acclaimed for his work on Live Aid, experienced the difficulties of single parenthood himself after his wife Paula Yates left him and later died. He believes that the government should act to protect the institution of marriage by making it more difficult to divorce. This marriage stuff is a serious thing. It is not to be entered into and dissolved on a whim and to make light of it is a profound mistake. Yet that is precisely what the law allows us and encourages us to do. Geldof laments what he sees as the decline in the importance attached to family life. Has the need to work hard, to produce, to earn, to spend, become more critical to the government and perhaps our own emptier selves than the truer world of the home? he asks. Have we so devalued domestic life and its culture of companionship and warmth and nurture and safety and calm to the point of being almost irrelevant? Were all encouraged to put work first and domestic matters such as our families and our relationships second and those who dont are regarded with suspicion . . . have we completely lost the idea of home being important? You know when you come home . . . and shes doing something nice, like making a meal or something, I dont know if its just me, its so feminine, its so sexy. Geldof on Marriage will be broadcast on Monday, October 11, on Channel 4 and a second programme, Geldof on Fathers, will go out the following day. He is already known as a campaigner for the rights of divorced fathers. Official figures released last month showed that the number of divorces reached than 150,000 in 2003 an increase of 4% on the previous year and, at 14 for every 1,000 married people, the highest rate for seven years. Men in their early thirties and women in their late twenties are the most likely to face divorce. Among married men in the 30 to 34-year-old age group, 28 out of 1,000 get divorced. Among married women aged 25 to 29, the rate is 29 per 1,000. Geldofs own family life descended into turmoil when Yates left him for Michael Hutchence, lead singer of the rock group INXS, in 1995. Geldof, 50 this week, eventually won custody of their three daughters after a bitter legal battle, and also became the guardian of Yatess daughter by Hutchence. The INXS frontman was found hanged in his hotel room in Sydney, Australia, in 1997 and Yates died of a drug overdose in 2000. Geldof also argues that too much emphasis is placed on the ephemeral attractions of the wedding day, without thought for the real meaning of the marriage vow. He says pre-marital classes might go some way to making the scale of the commitment clear. Why is it you cannot support the institution of marriage without sounding terrifically old-fashioned or right-wing? Its wrong. Weve got to take back the right to speak about the most important institution that man has evolved over thousands of years. Paula Hall, a spokeswoman for Relate, the relationship guidance group, said last week that divorce was not always wrong. It allows people to leave bad marriages, she said. Because more people are divorcing, it doesnt mean there are more unhappy marriages. I would suggest there are less unhappy marriages than there used to be because people get out whereas before they were stuck in them.Geldof: two parents are best
BOB GELDOF, the pop star turned Third World campaigner, has made a passionate plea for children to be brought up by two parents, claiming the because Im worth it society is creating a damaging number of single-parent families.
Why can't you defend marriage without sound right-wing? That's easy: because the Left is waging an all-out war to abolish marriage.
Does this mean he is pro-life, too?
For the same reason you can not bring up G-d or bedrock faith without sounding right-wing or old fashioned. The left has rejected these positions for a "I am the center of the universe" mentality. It isn't so much that the right embraced those values as they have been forced into the position of keeping the left from destroying them.
It might not have been always so but it is now.
Geldof has courage.
?This marriage stuff is a serious thing. It is not to be entered into and dissolved on a whim and to make light of it is a profound mistake. Yet that is precisely what the law allows us and encourages us to do. ?
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Well DuH!!
Another Leftist's sees the Light!!
Sometimes age DOES bring wisdom!
Heal your smug self. Geldof was on the ground in Ethiopia twenty years ago doing his best to make sure the Band Aid and Live Aid funds got to the people that needed them and not to autocrats and thieves. He defended his family immediately when his wife walked out him to keep the children away from the doomed and dysfunctional Yates and Hutchence. Your condescension is uncalled for.
The article leaves out his notable performance as the character "Pink" in the film version of Pink Floyd's "The Wall," in which (among other things) he gets to shave off all his body hair and don the persona of a neo-fascist rock-star, replete with goose-stepping minions in black quasi-Nazi regalia, in the unforgetable "In the Flesh":
Pink Floyd
In The Flesh
So ya thought ya might like to go to the show. To feel the warm thrill of confusion, that space cadet glow. I got me some bad news for you, Sunshine. Pink isn't well, he stayed back at the hotel, And he sent us along as a surrugate band. We're gonna find out where you fans really stand. Are there any queers in the theatre tonight? Get 'em up against the wall. -- 'Gainst the wall! And that one in the spotlight, he don't look right to me. Get him up against the wall. -- 'Gainst the wall! And that one looks Jewish, and that one's a coon. Who let all this riffraff into the room? There's one smoking a joint, and another with spots! If I had my way I'd have all of ya shot.
When I was talking to some very pro-Kerry people, they started to go on and on about Bush's economy. I said "Yes, I was laid off TWICE in 2001, but both times I ended up with better jobs and I am making a lot more than I was when he took office. However, I took one hell of a financial hit from my husband abandoning our family. That's not Bush's fault."
Excellent article, thanks for posting it.
Up until I had to go to court for this I believed that truth and honesty would prevail. The problem is that the courts don't even bother to try to determine the truth of any matter. That may have been the case at one time but certainly no more. What matters most is whose lawyers have something on the judge.
Spoken from someone who knows all too well.....Prayers for Sir Geldolf and his extended family.
I know its uncool, and I truly have no desire to cause upset or offence by saying this, but the truth of every study is clear: dual-parent upbringing produces healthier, better educated children. Thats it.
I'm working hard to change the laws here in Texas. As long as the government allows and REWARDS its citizens to treat their spouses and children badly, then they will continue to do so. Some, like my husband of almost 30 years, will treat it as an art form!
I was searching the posts to see if anyone else "remembered" his role in this film.
Thanks for remembering !!
I didn't say it had anything to do with his comments. What I wrote was:
"The article leaves out his notable performance as the character "Pink" in the film version of Pink Floyd's "The Wall,"....[snip]"
The point being that the article, which notes highlights of Geldof's career, failed to mention his performance in the the Pink Floyd film.
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