The feminist idea women didn't want to share their lives with men always ran against human nature. Even the NOW NAGs are discovering tradition is hard to overthrow.
I'm glad my wife kept her name. Laura is much better suited to her than David would be.
I never did learn the order of the names: his then hers or hers then his?
They're also taking their husbands homes, cars, money, toothbrush, etc.
A woman that won't take your name when she marries is not worth marrying.
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I note with interest that it is those same women who criticized that are, six years later, unhappily unmarried.
On the other side, I know one complete candyass who took his wife's name when he got married and his son has his wife's last name instead of his.
The funniest part is that he's white and his wife is Asian, so imagine meeting a blond, green-eyed dude who introduces himself to you as "Paul Takefuji" (not his real name but pretty close).
I wonder how his dad feels about all this.
Mrs. Theknow and I were behind them in the line to check in once and she heard me mutter at how stupid it was.
She angrily confronted me and said it was her "choice" to keep her maiden name and not submit to a "flawed patriarchal system."
My reply:
"So, in protest you did not take the name of the "MAN" on your marriage license but kept the name of the "MAN" on your birth certificate."
They did not wish to sit next to us at meals.
I had a chance to "Zing" her again about a year later when I was looking at a bumper sticker on her car that read: "Men of quality are not threatened by women seeking equality."
She confronted me and said, "So, Mr. Chauvinist, what do you think of that?"
My reply:
"Actually from my experience, I have noticed that women of quality don't have to seek equality."
I grew up with a lengthy ethnic name that no one could spell or pronounce. My life was a bureaucratic mess because of all the official misspellings and resultant confusion. It was especially annoying because my first name, though pretty, is also difficult for people to spell and pronounce. When I married a WASP with a simple, normal English name that everyone can spell, my life became a thousand times easier and more pleasant. No more lost mail, no more giggles and stupid jokes from people, no more headaches when I tried to register for things! Now I'm established professionally with the WASP name, and changing it would be a problem. If I am ever able to remarry, whether I took my husband's name or not might depend on how much of a pain in the neck it is, NOT on how much I love and honor him. I wouldn't take it if it were some long vowel-less Polish name, for example.
How bout John Kerry-Heinz? Just right for a girly man?
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>>>Ms. became popularized as a way to avoid the repression of Mrs. Keeping a surname was considered a way for a woman to keep her identity.<<<
FWIW: It wouldn't suprise me to learn that this was a complete lie and the avoidance of the repression of the title Mrs actually is the real reason, but.....I understood (way back when) that the creation of the title Ms was to have a suitable title for an adult woman who wasn't married -- Miss being too infantile and Mrs not applying. I have no problem with that, but, like most of the pretty good ideas coming out of that weird time, the title Ms seems to have morphed into something else (sort of like civil rights morphed into special rights or like giving women more sexual freedom, which we were told was supposed to make the marriage bed more enjoyable, morphed into fornication/adultery free-for-all). Instead, Ms seems to have morphed into exactly what the article claims.
Disclaimer: No one despises what feminism has done to women, marriage, and families more than I.
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What do the gays do?
MRS and MRS?
MR and MR?
I wouldn't marry if she wouldn't take my name; who needs that kind of headache?
Born today: Maryjane Harmon-Smith-Rodham-Thomas, daughter of James Harmon-Smith and Tiffany Rodahm-Thomas.
Uh, I thought you were supposed to take your husbands' name after you married (sarcasm).........I took my Hubby's name and have proudly used it for the last 38 years! These women libbers just don't get it and I think the fat lady is about to sing. There's a new generation of women out there who are finding there is a better way as far as family values and seeing the libbies for what they really are. IMHO.
My wife honored me by taking my surname when we were married in February.
When she went to Navy boot camp in March, the Navy screwed up her paperwork (as they are prone to do) and had her enlisted with her maiden name. She complained early during boot camp, but was told by her RDCs that there wasn't anything that could be done. Her RDCs didn't know me!
First, I called the public affairs office to "inquire" about the problem, where I was rudely hung up on by some bureaucrat working the phone. Then I called the RTC Great Lakes CDO's office where I talked to an MA2 who was on watch. He wasn't much better, but at least he didn't hang up on me.
After banging my head into the wall twice, I decided to bring out the big guns. I sat down and typed up a nice letter detailing my wife's experience and mailed four copies: one to the CO of the RTC, one to my Congressman (the Honorable Donald Manzullo(R), Illinois), and one to each of my Senators (the Honorable Peter Fitzgerald(R) and the other-than-Honorable Dick Durbin(D)).
Mr. Manzullo contacted Captain Moran (RTC Great Lakes). Captain Moran interviewed my wife. The problem was fixed in three days.
In an essay on the decline of feminism in the City Journal, Kay Hymowitz notes that feminist pioneer Patricia Ireland recently wrote that a woman taking her husband’s name “signifies the loss of her very existence as a person under the law.”
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Just like a feminist, men only detract, they don't add.
In Quebec a woman cannot take her husband's name for formal documents. On medical records, income tax forms, etc., a woman MUST use her maiden name.