Skip to comments.Connecticut Couple Fights to Keep Their Same-Sex Marriage Legal
Posted on 07/05/2004 3:29:10 PM PDT by Sweet_Sunflower29
Among the first things Katy Gossman and Kristin Marshall did after their May wedding in Massachusetts was change Marshall's last name to Gossman. But they are still waiting for her new driver's license to make it official. When the lesbian couple made the trek to the Connecticut Motor Vehicle Department, the clerk was at a loss for what to do.
"He started to punch it into the computer, and then he looked at the marriage license again. He looked at us, he looked at the license," Katy said. "He said he didn't know what to do with us. They weren't saying no, but they weren't saying yes."
The Gossmans were married in Worcester, Mass., on May 20, three days after gay marriage became legal in Massachusetts. And now they are one of eight couples who have filed a lawsuit challenging a 1913 Massachusetts law that has been used to block out-of-state couples from marrying there.
The Gossmans want to keep their marriage from being declared invalid. But even more so, they want to use that marriage license to try to secure in their home state of Connecticut all the legal and health benefits that come with being married.
Katy, an FBI agent, said she has already used her marriage license to obtain medical benefits for Kristin under her health plan at work. With the dangerous nature of her work, Katy, 40, also rushed to have Kristin, 38, listed as her beneficiary on her life insurance and pension.
In the lawsuit filed in June, the Gossmans and others are contesting a law that bars couples who live outside Massachusetts from exchanging vows there if their marriages would be illegal in their home states. Massachusetts Gov. Mitt Romney has said that any gay marriages involving out-of-state couples would be declared void.
Connecticut Attorney General Richard Blumenthal has said that Connecticut law does not allow for same-sex marriage, but he declined to say whether the state will recognize marriage licenses issued to gay couples in Massachusetts. In a letter to Romney, Blumenthal said that any marriages performed in Massachusetts would not be automatically void in Connecticut.
"It was very important for us to hear him say that," Kristin said.
With that in mind, the couple jumped in their car and were married by a justice of the peace, who they say was well aware of their Connecticut residency. The ceremony was small, with only Kristin's parents attending, and informal.
Katy and Kristin, a full-time student who is studying to be a medical technician, have been together ever since they met while warming up during a softball tournament in Houston in 1999. They later moved to Connecticut, where Kristin was raised, and have lived together in a blue colonial-style home in Meriden since October.
Before their marriage in Massachusetts, Katy and Kristin had a commitment ceremony in 2000 in a church in Fort Worth, Texas. They were escorted down the aisle by their parents and exchanged vows at the altar.
Still, the couple were reluctant to say they were married.
"Someone would say, 'Oh are you married?' and I would wonder if I should say yes because I am not legally married, but I have someone in my life who I consider to be my spouse," Katy said. "But now we can say, 'Yes, we're married.' No questions asked, no explanations necessary."
The couple plan to head back to the DMV with their marriage license in hand. And Kristin is trying to get pregnant by way of a sperm donor.
"We want to be able to tell our child that we're married. We want to be 'Mom' and 'Mom,'" Katy said. "We want to be a family."
Just change the forms and Connecticut will be all fixed up lickety split.
How did they choose who would carry the child, flip a coin? The world has gone crazy..
Sometimes I read this stuff and I think I'm going mad!
You are not going mad the world is.
They are going to get a sperm donor and have this child call them mom and mom!! This is crazy!
Then you are LYING to those children. You are not and will NEVER be "married" for marriage is only for a man and a woman. All you're doing is playing "let's pretend"!
A couple of real lookers. At least their shirt buttons are on the girl side.
TRANSLATION: We will break or bend any and all laws necessary to get our "lifestyle" accepted - and then by golly - every freaking insurance company better tow every letter of the law when it comes to coverage...
And notice, in the end, it is all about taxpayer money...
Note the AP story title "keep it legal".
They have the homosexual reporters working overtime in their propaganda efforts for homosexual spin.
A more accurate story would be "homosexual women seek to force conecticut to endorse Massachusets homosexaul marriage."
Never mind the fact that as Conecticul residents they could not legally marry in mass because of conecticuts law.
These people are preversions parading around as normal. Its sick.
Which is why the next step is to pass laws outlawing homsexual adoption. A child has one mother and one father.
Pat and Pat
Is it any wonder that that the FBI is screwed up?
Seems that most FBI agents spend a large amount of their time in the Office, pushing paper and "investigating". I can never remember in my lifetime an FBI agent responding to a domestic complaint, pull a car over or direct traffic. I'll bet they don't break a sweat more than five times a year.
What a lovely tale of Butchery.
Actually, that stuff is not their function. Staying behind a desk and analyzing info gathered in an investigation is a fairly rigorous task requiring good insight and judgment. When that same insight and judgment sees no problem with homosexual marriage, I have to question whether any of it is good at all.
The one on the right looks far more like a man than a woman.
It's not legal.
It was NEVER legal.
Unless the Connecticut legislature passes a law, or the Congress and the States amend the Constitution, it cannot BECOME legal.
Courts do not "legalize" things.
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