Posted on 06/14/2004 6:54:52 PM PDT by summer
Or it was something beyond or other than love. For one back then there was alimony --- a man would have to pay a wife if he dumped her for another. Then there was a different social climate -- more people stayed near their families and families put a lot of pressure on married couples to stay together. And more people lived in small towns --- and we all know there is no privacy in small towns, less ability to cheat and run around when everyone knows everyone.
You were just expected to get married and stay married --- "fulfillment" and "romance" and trying to find your "soul mate" if the first one didn't turn out to be wasn't the way they thought. Plus fewer women worked along side men so there were less opportunities for many to cheat in the workplace.
I can see why they would because it seems that in marriages with two incomes not only is there more money when the marriage works out but if something goes wrong there isn't going to be the same fight in the divorce --- the judge tends to allow a man much more of his income if the wife has a good income of her own, she's also not as desperate to go after his paycheck and can survive on her own. The divorce is likely to be a bit more equal.
You make good points, but how ironic it is, that with all the greater opportunities to meet a mate, and with women earning money, the end result is: more divorce, fewer marriages, and the lowest birth rate in decades. Something went wrong along the way.
I read to my kids quite a bit. We also cover the modern political scene.
Wow, I'm a hard core conservative then... I want and believe my wife should stay home.. yes it hurts our pocket book, but it helps our kids more than any amount of money. Of course part of her staying home means she has to do the work that is entitled with staying home as well, keeping the house, cooking, cleaning etc.
Anyway, for all you "working mom's" out there who want to stay home but hubby won't let ya... sorry to hear ya hitched so poorly.
Well like most things, Undergraduates don't know crap about crap.... Hell with wife working. I am not opposed to it if it is needed, but last thing I want is a wife working because she "wants" to.
I want a woman who knows that marriage is an emotional partnership, not a financial one. I want her to stay home, cook, clean, take care of the house and kids.... so that they have a stable and constant adult looking out for them during the day.... and leaving me free to focuse my work energies on work... (not needing to figure out who's going to miss work to go talk to teacher this week) and when I come home, be able to unwind and enjoy my family.
I have absolutely no desire to be with a woman who thinks income is more important than family, and frankly any woman willing to put work ahead of her kids and family voluntarily is definately not a woman I want to be involved with.
Conversely if she's the bread winner, I got no problem doing the house husband thing either... I just don't buy into one minute of the gobbledy gook that Carreer is more important than kids.
Sorry Ladies, I don't care what the feminist movement tells you... you do your children no favors putting them in day care all day, or letting others raise them. Now I understand some have no choice, and that is fine, I am speaking to those who do have a choice and buy into the lie that they aren't hurting anyone.
Like the Seargant said, "When young men lie dying on the battlefield, parts of them blown off, they don't cry out for their teacher or day care worker... they call out for their Mothers." Do not shame yourselves by short selling the importance that time with your child is.
Once the children are raised, go out and do whatever, but during the time they are at home, don't... or find a part time thing that can work from the house. Don't get caught in the trap and lies.
How is it that so many women can wonder that a daddy might think it necessary for females to help pay the burden of their individual vote?
I think I would need at least three wives for all that. I generally just settle for "someone who gives a flying flip about the welfare of the kids during the day."
Yes, we have automatic dishwashers, and the dishes are always dirty. We have washing machines and dryers, and the clothes are never clean. We have extremely low maintenance automobiles, and the errands are never run. We have microwaves, automatic ovens and ranges, and the food is never prepared. We have vacuum cleaners, and the floor is always dirty.
Our children are undisciplined, our houses are a mess, and sex is nonexistent.
That is why men want women to go to work.
I'm conservative, thin (a little too thin), and my wife stays home with our two children. I wouldn't have it any other way.
I'm a stay-at-home mother with a 15 month old. It is all I can do to keep the breakfast/lunch/dinner remains off the floor, the child entertained, diapers changed and toys out of the major pathways so that we can walk... I feel a little guilty that the house gets out of control sometimes because I'm here all day while he's at work.
I love every minute of being with my child and am thankful that my husband and I made it a priority for me to be here. IMO it is the hardest and most rewarding thing I've ever done.
RE your post #77 - Thanks for explaining that. :)
Re your post #86 - A+ for you! :)
Re your post #87 - There are very few men on this thread who said what you did, that you prefer your wife satying home. In fact, I think you're the first. Thanks for your post.
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