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It bothers me when it's always the parents' fault. Sometimes decent people can still have a child who goes wrong. The guy who killed my dad (although in his early 30s at the time) has parents who still stand by him. In his statements for court proceedings he even said he had a good upbringing and wonderful parents. I feel badly for his parents since they believe the lies he says (he changed his story a few times).
I think a lot of times parents remember their children as just their children. The sweet baby or little child they loved. They don't think of the person who became a murderer. It's got to be a living hell for them. Knowing not only that they lost a child, but he took others with him.

It bothers me when it's always the parents' fault. Sometimes decent people can still have a child who goes wrong.

When parents have a very difficult child, like a severely depressed child, they should get help and find out what may work to give their child the best childhood that can be acheived. It is OK to forgive the parents for some mistakes, but they should also ask themselves what they observed and whether they were observant enough.

We know for example that the commander of a unit should have some responsibility for what goes on in the unit. If they don't know what is going on, they can be held responsible for not being aware. In this case I believe there were a lot of "warning signs" out there and the parents could resonably be held responsible for not knowing what their child was doing.