That is one of the hardest things about this whole situation. Let's say I 'give all' again...which is a very difficult thing for anyone to do. What's to keep him from taking the sex that is offered next time.
I cannot fathom that about men. If it's just sex, why marry at all? Why commit yourself to someone and promise to be faithful when all you really want is to get laid? Argh! (Not you, btw, just in general. ; *))
Are you saying it is difficult to give all because of his infidelity, or because you just don't like doing it?
If both of you can change your hearts toward one another he won't be interested. If both of you can't recommit to loving each other, it will only be a matter of time.
I cannot fathom that about men. If it's just sex, why marry at all? Why commit yourself to someone and promise to be faithful when all you really want is to get laid?
For most men, it is only the notion that sex outside of marriage is wrong that ever gets them to marry. With a woman, the relationship must be there for the sex. With a man, the sex must be there for the relationship. Probably the bitterest dissappointment in a man's life is to stand before Almighty God and make an unconditional covenant of marriage to a woman and then find that a random woman off the street is more likely to be willing to satisfy his urges than his wife. He feels betrayed not only by his wife, but by God. He has given his freedom, his income, his life to a woman who night after night refuses to even acknowledge any desire for him.
He has been lured into a trap, one that he will spend his life in. His sex drive becomes a daily torment. He is faced with a choice, his promise to God to be faithful to a woman that every day he grows to hate a little bit more in spite of all his efforts to love her, and the cute young thing who admires his looks, his car, his income, etc. Surprisingly, most men simply trudge through life enduring this situation, trying to love their wives and be faithful to them, all the while thinking that at least they get to die early.