Dr. Laura Schlessinger: 'The Proper Care And Feeding Of Husbands'

WorldNetDaily.com ^ | Tuesday, January 6, 2004 | Dr. Laura Schlessinger

[GeronL]

I need to be more obvious when I kid

[Doc On The Bay]

WELL, NOW, I know a Pretty Good Psychologist who would be willing to Talk to You!!

Doc

[freedox]

"Just look at the latest Diamonds commercial on tv and that says it all. He buys here a big overpriced ring, and she says "I love this man" as she seems to be having an orgasm while she hugs him."

Don't let those diamond commercials scare you. When my husband and I married 22 years ago, he gave me what he could afford at the time......a very narrow plain gold band. He told me that he would replace the ring when he could afford something better. I told him that that ring would never leave my finger.......and for 22 years, it hasn't. Although he has far exceeded his promises of financial success and has bought me many things, that plain gold band remains the only jewelry on my left hand. Nothing could ever mean more to me than that symbol of his promise, offered at a time when promises were all that either of us could afford to give.

[onyx]

All these years I have kept my secret life just that.

Your secret is safe with me, WKB. Haven't you read my tagline?

[onyx]

Woo-Hoo! You got yourself a new tagline that caught my attention.

[LisaMalia]

Dr. Laura is coming up on Hannity and Colmes. This should be interesting.

[freedox]

"I'm astounded at how many women refuse the easy road to happiness because they'd rather treat men with suspicion or contempt instead of love."

"It appears that many women want to be understood so well that there may not be much left to care about when we finally do understand."

IMO, two of the best statements on the whole thread.

[Neets]

I want to be known for more than just QVCP at ElPeePee.

[It's me]

Well, it works for me. And boy, does it come back 100 fold!

I'm good to him and he's good to me. It really does work both ways.

[It's me]

It takes three to make a good marriage. You need God too. I think my wife and I have a happy marriage. At 7 1/2 yrs and 2 1/2 kids, both have to have their priorities straight. Oh yea, the "gettin' it on" is always getting better.

BINGO!

Sounds like you are my husband! We've been married 23 years. It does keep getting better.

[chris1]

That was nice to hear. I like hearing that kind of thing.

[chris1]

Dr. Laura is coming on.

[Axenolith]

Sapphires, sapphires, or maybe emeralds are the stone. Diamonds are overrated...

[onyx]

LOL! Heck, Neets, sex, sex, sex, sex, sex, sex, sex, might even awaken Dead-Fred.

[rintense]

A beautiful post, once again, Carlo. Thank you for joining the thread.

[SauronOfMordor]

Some women are just not good people. Just like some men. If she won't put forth effort, you can't make her change. Just don't turn into my grandfather and work your butt off for your entire life for a nasty, naggy, lazy wife who refuses to even be kind. He didn't even get to outlive the witch.

Sometimes it's like the song:

You gotta know when to hold'em
Know when to fold'em
Know when to walk away
Know when to run

[rintense]

Men can be quite slow, but by and large we're extremely sure.

Are you sure about that? ;) I guess it was just the way I read Dr. Laura's post.

[Quix]

FOR SURE!

Am curious--Which one, IF I may ask.

FREEMAIL, IF YOU'D RATHER!

[rintense]

Very nice post, Marie. Thank you! I don't disagree with anything you've said. I have learned much by reading this thread.

[Tall_Texan]

I think the word manipulation is too strong. By that logic, giving a woman gold jewelry is manipulation.

If I give a woman gold jewelry in appreciation of her love or her beauty or her kindness to me, her acceptance of it is its own reward. If I gave her jewelry with the expectation that I could then have sex with her, that is manipulation (unless it had been previously agreed upon that the jewelry was a de facto fee for sex).

I once had a female co-worker do a small, kind thing for me at the office. Next, she wanted me to spend my lunch hour running her errands for her. That is manipulation. The kind thing was not requested and there was no agreement on my part that I would do anything in return for this kindness. She just assumed that if she did something nice for me, I'd be willing to run her errands. She guessed wrong.

"Manipulation", like "discrimination", are words that have become emotionally-staked to mean worse than what they really mean. In my mind, manipulation is when you do something for someone with the expectation that they will be coerced to do something you want them to. It's the second half of the equation that makes it manipulation, not the first.

If I buy a woman a dinner, or a drink or a car, I'm not expecting anything in return unless I announce it before she accepts it. If she wants to respond in kind, that's great. If she doesn't, that's life (at least my life).

But then again, women are always telling me I'm "too nice", "too kind". etc.