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Gay Marriage - How are YOU harmed? (VANITY)
vanity | 12/31/03 | Robert Teesdale

Posted on 12/31/2003 7:16:23 AM PST by Robert Teesdale

To All:

Gay marriage, or civil unions, as some call it, are a hot issue right now. I'd like to ask FReepers for their $.02 on something regarding this.

Gay marriage is overwhelmingly opposed by most of the country. What I want to know, is what valid (i.e. Constitutionally acceptable) basis there can be for opposition to it.

Here's an example of what I mean. Some folks will say they oppose gay marriage because it violates their moral and/or religious standards. That's fine with me; it's a free country, and it's their right to feel that way. However, from my perspective it's also insufficient reason for to deny argued rights to other parts of the People.

What I'm looking for here is an argument as to how any of you, as an individual, are harmed by any particular gay or lesbian couple being married/civil unioned. I've heard the various arguments about "the institution of marriage", etc. - but can anyone show me that they, as an individual, are injured by a gay marriage and as such have grounds for claim of limitation on the rights of others?

I've had various discussions with conservatives and liberals about this matter and the trend I've observed is unsatisfying in terms of resolving my concerns about the issue. The opponents of gay marriage often couch their arguments in terms of morality and Judeo-Christian ethics. I don't find that oppositional approach to be compelling. It feels like a Sharia-style argument and I inherently distrust it.

Essentially, I suppose I'm somewhat Libertarian on this one. Folks who know me here will know I'm certainly not a Libertarian; I've got my own political work that's quite different from theirs. But on this issue it seems somewhat obvious: if two men, or two women, or two "transgendered" (use your imagination) individuals desire to have civil recognition of their union...

...how can another third party claim injury from that?

My rights end where yours begin. The right to not be offended or outraged, I believe, is a foolish nonentity. To argue that gay marriage is offensive or violates non-legal standards of morality doesn't meet, for me, the most obvious litmus test for outlawing it - harm to others from the conduct.

Flame away. I'm not arguing for gay marriage... I want to know what sober, Constitutionally acceptable arguments FReepers can make against it.

I am willing to reconsider my opinion and positions on the issue. Offer me arguments, and I'll review them.

Oh. And a very Happy New Year to all.

Best regards,

Robert Teesdale
American Party of Colorado


TOPICS: Constitution/Conservatism; Culture/Society; Miscellaneous; Philosophy; Your Opinion/Questions
KEYWORDS: civil; gay; gaymarriage; homosexualagenda; marriage; reprobates; sodomites; unions
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1 posted on 12/31/2003 7:16:24 AM PST by Robert Teesdale
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To: Robert Teesdale
I am not personally harmed by a drunk driver in Wyoming but I oppose drunk driving. Your question is inane.
2 posted on 12/31/2003 7:17:45 AM PST by AppyPappy (If You're Not A Part Of The Solution, There's Good Money To Be Made In Prolonging The Problem.)
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To: Robert Teesdale
Marriage shouldn't be recognized by the state, period. It should be a religious matter involving the church. Or if people don't want to go to a church and get married, yet still call themselves married, they're free to knock themselves out. It doesn't harm anyone.
3 posted on 12/31/2003 7:18:49 AM PST by xrp
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To: AppyPappy
No, it's not inane. Your answer is unreasonably flippant. Drunk driving kills people. Explain to me how a gay marriage harms another party. It's not a rhetorical question.
4 posted on 12/31/2003 7:19:38 AM PST by Robert Teesdale
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To: xrp
Finding new "rights" in the Constitution deforms, and eventually destroys, the Constitution. And that harms me plenty.
5 posted on 12/31/2003 7:19:46 AM PST by MoralSense
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To: Robert Teesdale
outlawing

Interesting terminology. There is a difference between recognizing something via a government entity/license and outlawing something. People are free to live with whom they choose. Marriage is something society grants as a special type of living arrangement and has passed special laws regulating it (ie, you need a license, divorces are regulated, etc and so on).

Would go and blab some more but have to run for a few (I am at work). Should be an interesting thread though. Will check back in a bit when I get done.

6 posted on 12/31/2003 7:20:58 AM PST by chance33_98 (I'm a little tagline short and stout, chance is my handle and the above is his spout)
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To: AppyPappy
I am not personally harmed by a drunk driver in Wyoming but I oppose drunk driving. Your question is inane.

No it isn't. Your response is inane. A drunk driver in Wyoming, on open, public areas (like an Interstate) is a threat to other individuals. However, a drunk driver, driving on his own private expanse of property (let's say 2,000 acres) at 150mph is a threat only to himself, unless someone else is breaking the law and trespassing on his 2,000 acre property.

7 posted on 12/31/2003 7:20:58 AM PST by xrp
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To: xrp
That's an answer which does cut through much of the nonsense. Interesting. I suspect that the State will, however, likely never divest itself of interests in controlling and nannying in this arena.
8 posted on 12/31/2003 7:21:21 AM PST by Robert Teesdale
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Homosexual sodomy is a form of murder, since it destroys both the soul and the body. The state should not be giving its Imprimatur to unneeded suffering and death.
9 posted on 12/31/2003 7:22:11 AM PST by Cultural Jihad
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To: Robert Teesdale
Mr. Teesdale, there have been a number of discussions on that topic on FR that would satisfy your interest.

The basic summary is that marriage has a purpose, that is, the perpetuation of our civilization, and a homosexual pairing cannot meet that purpose. Therefore, to give the priveleges of marriage to their relationship relatively cheapens not only genuine marriages, but also other relationships that are not so priveleged. 14th Amendment and all that.
10 posted on 12/31/2003 7:22:34 AM PST by thoughtomator ("I will do whatever the Americans want because I saw what happened in Iraq, and I was afraid"-Qadafi)
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To: MoralSense
Finding new "rights" in the Constitution deforms, and eventually destroys, the Constitution. And that harms me plenty.

Marriage isn't a "right" listed in the US Constitution, either for man/woman unions or woman/woman or man/man. So, essentially you're supporting my position.

11 posted on 12/31/2003 7:22:43 AM PST by xrp
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To: Robert Teesdale

It's none of my business what other consenting adults do.

I couldn't care less.
12 posted on 12/31/2003 7:23:22 AM PST by Eris
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To: Robert Teesdale
The only arguement that seems to make any personal impact on individuals not involved in the union is that by officially recognizing a marriage, couples will be able to file for insurance together. Health insurance and life insurance rates are bound to affect the average Joe. This is about the only compelling arguement I've heard against gay marriages. The rest of it is merely opinion.
13 posted on 12/31/2003 7:23:41 AM PST by ogradytom
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To: Robert Teesdale
'Marriage', 'union', 'sacred' are all words that have meaning to most conservative Westerners and certainly Christians. The state cannot simply alter the meaning through fiat and expect to be legitimate.

Basically, secular leftists and rightwing socialists (or neocons) want Christians and conservative Westerners to pay for their 'society', a society that the 'right' finds anywhere from alien, economically burdensome, all the way too outright blasphemous.

On the other hand, I would be happy to trade state licensed marriage for the ability to opt out of the income tax or social security.
14 posted on 12/31/2003 7:23:46 AM PST by JohnGalt ("...so are the sons of men snared in an evil time, when it falleth suddenly upon them.")
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To: chance33_98
That's a good argument. It's is probably not accurate to speak of "outlawing" or "banning" gay marriage at this point. However, there is a move to modify the Constitution itself with a defense of marriage act; now to me, that appears more damaging to the Constitution than finding new "rights" in it as mentioned by another poster.
15 posted on 12/31/2003 7:24:21 AM PST by Robert Teesdale
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To: xrp
Being a threat to oneself should not be allowed, either. The DOI Preamble doesn't speak of "an early death, slavery to vice, and the pursuit of unneeded suffering." Inalienable rights can be infringed upon, but not abrogated.
16 posted on 12/31/2003 7:24:29 AM PST by Cultural Jihad
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To: Robert Teesdale
Michael Jackson or some pervert might mess with some child and scar them for life. Does that "injure" me? Not really.

Someone kills someone else. "Injures" me? Nope.

Remember 9/11? All those people killed? It messed with me financially for a bit but I didn't have any real connection to those people. So that did not "injure" me.

What if you shoot your family dead, screw your dog, cat and goldfish while setting babies on fire? "Injure" me? Would not seem to.

So, what's you point goober?

18 posted on 12/31/2003 7:25:26 AM PST by isthisnickcool (Guns!)
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To: MoralSense
I think that "finding new rights" in the Constitution is not inherently a bad thing... not when compared to the enormous efforts to "recognize" that certain rights (i.e. 2nd, 4th, 10th Amendments for starters) "really don't mean what you thought they meant."
19 posted on 12/31/2003 7:25:53 AM PST by Robert Teesdale
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Not necessarily. A guy can drive drunk and never hurt anyone. To society, drunk driving increases the risk of hurting someone. But there is absolutely no risk to me if some guy gets in a truck in Wyoming and drives home. But there is a risk to general society when we allow drunk drivers to get on the road. Drunk driving kills people and so does gay sex.

Your insinuation is that we shouldn't care about things that do not personally harm us is myopic. In reality, gay marriage affects society by "dumbing down" marriage. So it does indirectly affect me since I am part of society. Marriage is between a man and a woman, not two men and a chicken. When you advocate gay marriage, you are advocating the end of marriage as an institution.
20 posted on 12/31/2003 7:26:39 AM PST by AppyPappy (If You're Not A Part Of The Solution, There's Good Money To Be Made In Prolonging The Problem.)
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