Too young or too old

    It's not very hip to consider the plight of single women who yearn for something so old-fashioned as men, all male and very virile. The plight of homosexual men and women who can't get a marriage license will no doubt occupy us through next year's elections and beyond. Frank Loesser's 1943 hit song, for the movie "Thank YourLucky Stars," is hopelessly politically incorrect for our times:
    "They're either too young, or too old,
    "They're either too gray or too grassy green,
    "The pickings are poor and the crop is lean."

    Back then, of course, all the good men were at war, and most of them were overseas. In the movie, Bette Davis walks into a nightclub looking for a real man and all she finds are unreasonable facsimiles. She's stuck dancing first with a codger who could be her grandfather and then with a boy with pimples and sweaty palms who could be her kid brother.
    "They're either too bald or too bold,
    "I'm down to the wheelchair and bassinet,
    "My heart just refuses to get upset."
    "I simply can't compel it to",
    "With no Marine to tell it to."

    That was then, and now men and women are fighting wars together, and we're supposed to be satisfied with sameness rather than celebrating differences. But despite all the feminist huffing and puffing, some things haven't changed. Women of a certain age without mates decry as loud as ever the pickings as poor and sad, and most of them blame the iron law of unintended consequences, applied to women's liberation.

Until these women understand the difference between good and good enough they will continue searching in vain.

the "myth" of not finding a man has the basis on the early boomer women...the men they should have married were never conceived because of WWII...and then the increase in births in 1946-1950 mean these women outnumbered the men born in 1940-1945.

One conservative lady even points out that many "feminist" leaders who seemed to despise men actually were turned down by men (aborting their children because their boyfriend refused to marry them) or couldn't find a perfect man, so decided to "pretend" to hate men...

I decided not to marry because I became a missionary...when war forced me home, I was "too old"...then God intervened...and my husband and I married late...

Too old? he's older than me, bald, and not so good looking...but like the movie "the enchanted cottage", he is beautiful to me...

I agree the men are out there

But too many "younger" men learn to play the field, and TV/movies tell them being free is good, and the stupid girlfriends live with them and let them get away with irresponsibility. Neither of the couple really has been taught about never cheating, being responsible, and the importance of 'a piece of paper", possibly because their baby boomer parents were divorced ...

I'm waiting for the preachers to teach again how men should be men...

I'm waiting for the preachers to teach again how men should be men...

I agree with you entirely but you only told half the story. Not only can men have all the benefits of marriage (sex they think) with none of the costs but if they do get married they are now likely to suffer for it if the woman decides to move on.

No fault divorce and bad divorce settlement/child custody laws have made marriage a losing proposition for men. Since we can now get all the guilt free no entanglement sex we want (thank you feminists) and still hang out with the guys and watch footbal etc why bother getting married at all?

Both men and women lose because of this. Marriage makes men finally grow up and we don't realize how good it is to be grown up until we get there. Most men (myself included) only grew up when we were forced to. When single we get to play and do what we want and we don't realize how much more fulfilling life can be when you have someone to share it with. We don't really understand the blessings that children are or the satisfaction at providing for them. We are less than we should be when we are single.

God made man and woman to be complimentary halves of the same spiritual organism, without each other we are incomplete.

Back in the 60's the feminists claimed that a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. Now those same feminists are finding themselves with empty (although scarred by multiple abortions) wombs, empty lives and almost no hope for what they really wanted after all, the fairy tale of prince charming. While they were busy building a career instead of building a life their prince charming was off playing the field and perhaps marrying someone who wanted to be his wife.

So we are stuck with a culture of immature boys trying to make people think they are men (bill clinton) and lonesome old women who are successful at business but losers at life.

How do we fix this? The first step is to re-value marriage. We must ban no fault divorce. If marriage is truly important then it is forever. We must roll back the sexual revolution. Everyone should be a virgin on their wedding night. If marriage is truly important than you should save yourself for your future mate. We must enact laws that encourage marriage instead of breaking it down. Cohabition should be illegal (as it once was in most states). Those who sleep around should be called sluts and treated as such. Shame needs to be restored to our society.

Is this ever going to happen? Yes. Unfortunately probably not until after Jesus comes back.

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