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Fight over woman's feeding tube leaves husband's life in limbo (Terri Schiavo)
Salt Lake Tribune ^ | Nov. 1, 2003 | Abby Goodnough , NYT

Posted on 11/02/2003 9:47:19 AM PST by FairOpinion

CLEARWATER, Fla. -- Michael Schiavo is 6 feet 6 inches, with a scrub-brush mustache and a gold chain bearing the crosses his parents wore. He is a nurse who works the graveyard shift, often pulling into his driveway as his neighbors walk their dogs in the moist Florida dawn. He has a meticulously kept yard, a screened-in pool where his friends sometimes gather, a golden retriever, a girlfriend and a year-old daughter.

"My brother is a normal guy who this tragedy happened to," said Brian Schiavo, one of the four brothers with whom Schiavo shared an unremarkable childhood in Levittown, Pa., near Philadelphia.

But because of the tragedy of Schiavo's wife, Terri, 39, who suffered brain damage when she collapsed one night 13 years ago, Michael Schiavo is also at the center of one of the most debated court cases in the nation. He wants to remove her feeding tube, paving the way for her death against the wishes of her parents and supporters who have rallied to their cause.

For this, Schiavo, 40, has been depicted as a heartless fiend.

As the case has gained prominence in recent months, Schiavo has all but refused to tell his side of the story publicly or answer the charges that his in-laws, and people who have never met him, keep leveling. Through his brother Brian and his lawyer, George Felos, he declined to be interviewed for this article.

But as the latest round in the legal battle over Terri Schiavo's fate begins, her husband's friends and relatives are speaking out. They describe a man driven from his home by death threats, who avoids going out in public but for work and court dates. He will not divorce his wife, marry his new love and get on with life, they say, because of his determination to carry out his wife's wish not to live in a vegetative state.

"He's got ethics and values that most people don't have, much less the strength to adhere to them," said Russ Hyden, a friend who said Michael Schiavo supported him through his wife's death from cancer.

Schiavo was two years out of high school when he met Theresa Marie Schindler in 1982, at Bucks County Community College in Pennsylvania. She had been overweight and frumpy until her senior year of high school, when she started dieting, and Schiavo was her first boyfriend, her family said.

The couple married in 1984, and two years later, decided to move to St. Petersburg, Fla., into a condominium that Terri Schiavo's parents, Bob and Mary Schindler, owned.

When they were not working -- he as a restaurant manager, she as a clerk at Prudential -- they hung out by the pool at their apartment complex or in St. Pete Beach, thick with bars and dance clubs.

While Michael Schiavo's family describes those early years of the marriage as carefree, the Schindlers -- who moved to Florida around the time their daughter did -- say they became dark. Michael Schiavo was a penny pincher who kept track of the mileage on his wife's car and yelled at her for spending money on haircuts, they said.

The Schindlers say that on Feb. 25, 1990, Terri Schiavo told her brother that she and Schiavo had had a violent argument -- a claim Michael Schiavo denies. Michael Schiavo says his wife was asleep when he arrived home from work. In a rare interview on "Larry King Live," he said he awoke at 4:30 a.m. and heard a thud. It was his wife, whom he found on the floor, he said.

By the time paramedics arrived, Schiavo's heart had not pumped for perhaps 10 minutes, doctors found. The prevailing theory is that she had an undiagnosed potassium deficiency, possibly from extreme weight loss or even, her husband has said, bulimia. She had gone from more than 200 pounds in high school to 110 pounds.

The brain damage Schiavo suffered left her able to breathe on her own but not to ingest food or drink. Doctors have said she is in a persistent vegetative state, meaning her eyes are open, but her brain is incapable of emotion, memory or thought.

Brian Schiavo said his brother was determined to rehabilitate his wife.

Michael Schiavo flew his wife to California for treatment, sleeping on a cot beside her bed for a month. He began studying nursing, to take better care of her. He and his wife lived with the Schindlers for a while, and he filed a malpractice suit against Terri Schiavo's doctors for failing to diagnose her health problems. In November 1992, the Schiavos won $1 million in damages: $700,000 for her care, the rest for him.

When the check arrived, the war began. Both sides say that on Valentine's Day, 1993, Michael Schiavo and his father-in-law had an ugly fight in the nursing home where Terri Schiavo was then living. The Schindlers say the fight was about what kind of treatment the money would go toward, with them advocating rigorous therapy and Schiavo wanting only basic care. But Schiavo said it was because Schindler wanted a cut of the settlement.

Schiavo's belief that his wife would recover had evaporated by 1997, his supporters say, when he lost his mother to cancer. But the other side points out that as early as 1993, soon after he won the malpractice money, Michael Schiavo did not want to treat an infection his wife had developed and that he had stopped her rehabilitation even earlier.

Only after his mother's death did Schiavo tell his in-laws that on several occasions, his wife had said she would not want to be kept alive artificially. The timing of the revelation -- after he won the malpractice money and after he began seeing Jodi Centonze, with whom he would eventually have a child -- made the Schindlers deeply suspicious.

For a long time, the Schindlers accused Schiavo of wanting his wife dead so he could spend her settlement money. But Michael Schiavo's lawyer said all but $60,000 has been spent on medical care and legal fees, and that his client would not see a penny of what remains.

Brian Schiavo said his brother felt betrayed by everyone from the Schindlers to the news media to Gov. Jeb Bush, who used a law rushed through the Legislature recently to order Schiavo's feeding tube reinserted. Schiavo has sued to have the law ruled unconstitutional.


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Extended News; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: crymeariver; itsallaboutmememe; schiavo; selfabsorbed; terri; terrischiavo
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To: sweetliberty
I realize that is completely irrelevant to the discussion at hand.

No it ain't.

161 posted on 11/02/2003 3:43:31 PM PST by carenot
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To: carenot
I guess what I meant was that it is irrelevant as to the decision about the feeding tube. It isn't irrelevant as far as the HINO's culpability for his wife's condition.
162 posted on 11/02/2003 3:47:14 PM PST by sweetliberty ("Having the right to do a thing is not at all the same thing as being right in doing it.")
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To: FairOpinion
http://patriot.net/~bmcgin/fortrs8b.mid

Yep .. It is also about a live in mistress and an out of wedlock kid..That he wants to give it to.

If it was not about the money he could just sign it over to her parents and divorce Terri

The motive is all too clear

163 posted on 11/02/2003 3:51:31 PM PST by RnMomof7
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To: FITZ; stylin_geek
Actually I think it's pretty emotional to just KNOW that he remembers exactly what she said she wanted 15 years late and not to question one man's memory or supposed memory of what someone might have said -

Are you questioning the objective rationality of a poster? for shame!

:-)

164 posted on 11/02/2003 3:51:47 PM PST by Terriergal (Psalm 11: 3 "When the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?")
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To: Hildy; MHGinTN
Who has paid her bills over the past 10 years

If it is her husband, no wonder he wants her dead. He's a cheap control freak, remember?

165 posted on 11/02/2003 3:53:30 PM PST by Terriergal (Psalm 11: 3 "When the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?")
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To: MHGinTN
And it will shock you to learn that much of the three years of expenses was born by the Schindlers and health insurance from prudential where Terri worked, and they continued to pay during the years following the settlement. But those facts aren't convenient to your agenda to dehumanize Terri Schindler Schiavo, eh?

Go figure!

166 posted on 11/02/2003 3:54:14 PM PST by Terriergal (Psalm 11: 3 "When the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?")
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To: FITZ
and I'm sure someone might even remember me saying that--- that doesn't mean I want to be killed if I actually did end up in a wheelchair.

talking about this with my mom, she says the same thing. "I wouldn't want to be kept alive" yada yada yada...

But talk is just talk... I cannot assume that if she were rendered unable to communicate such complex ideas, she didn't change her mind. And she has to respect my position that I would not want to be asked to disconnect reasonable life support (e.g. feeding and hydration) from her should she be in that state.

167 posted on 11/02/2003 3:56:46 PM PST by Terriergal (Psalm 11: 3 "When the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?")
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To: Bogey
Just out of curiosity, isn't Michael stating something that Teri said on the couch watching t.v. called "hearsay". I didn't think a conversation not witnessed by anyone was admissable as evidence.

It is, if you're a member of the pro-death crowd.

168 posted on 11/02/2003 3:57:23 PM PST by Terriergal (Psalm 11: 3 "When the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?")
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To: eskimo
If he doesn't like limbo, all he has to do is divorce her.

Exactly. He just has to admit the he is a weak charactered slug and wants to break his vows instead of working to kill her.

But then he'd lose the insurance money. Can't have that!

169 posted on 11/02/2003 3:58:13 PM PST by Terriergal (Psalm 11: 3 "When the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?")
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To: Let's Roll
oops forgot to include you in the to: field for #169
170 posted on 11/02/2003 3:59:44 PM PST by Terriergal (Psalm 11: 3 "When the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?")
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To: Left_Coast_Conservative
Feel sorry for M. Schiavo.
He is bedded down with his newest love. Fathered a baby, maybe 2. Free to roam around, go to work. Spend all Terri's money. While poor Terri fights for her life.
Give me a break!!!!
171 posted on 11/02/2003 4:00:29 PM PST by fabriclady
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To: FairOpinion
a gold chain bearing the crosses his parents wore.

Awww! Ain't that precious! Don't you love this "he's even a religious sentimental guy who loves his parents" detail?

172 posted on 11/02/2003 4:01:49 PM PST by Terriergal (Psalm 11: 3 "When the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?")
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To: Graymatter
Imagine your husband dies without leaving a will. You stand to inherit the whole million dollars. But along comes his brother saying, "He told me he wanted ME to have it all." The brother's wife swears she heard this too, on another occasion. Throw in a sister too. But nobody else ever heard it. Should they get the inheritance on this basis?

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Jeff Cooper once said, "If it's worth knowing, write it down." That applies to more than literature.
174 posted on 11/02/2003 4:06:53 PM PST by 4Godsoloved..Hegave (Mat 25:35 For I was an hungred, and ye gave me meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me drink:)
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To: Terriergal
Whoops, I asked to get those pulled -- I think I caused someone's site to exceed their bandwidth.

I'll get the images and put them on my own.
176 posted on 11/02/2003 4:14:47 PM PST by Terriergal (Psalm 11: 3 "When the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?")
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To: Mfkmmof4
Is that Terri for real? If it is then why would he be upset with her parents showing videos of her? Oh my God!


Those were taken before he totally withdrew rehabilitative therapy.

As he said on LKL, she's all contracted now.

Yep, because basic range of motion has been denied her for over 10 years. What would any of us look like if that were our situation.
177 posted on 11/02/2003 4:15:51 PM PST by 4Godsoloved..Hegave (Mat 25:35 For I was an hungred, and ye gave me meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me drink:)
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To: FairOpinion
Michael Schiavo is 6 feet 6 inches, with a scrub-brush mustache and a gold chain bearing the crosses his parents wore

During his LKL interview, Schiavo said he'd had to "do the same thing with his parents" as he wants to do to Terri now (starve her to death). We know he had Terri's wedding and engagement rings melted down to make a ring for himself. I didn't know about him wearing his parents' jewelry until I read your article. Is Michael Shiavo a serial killer who keeps and wears trophies, such as the jewelry, belonging to his victims??

178 posted on 11/02/2003 4:39:11 PM PST by lonevoice (Legal disclaimer: The above is MY OPINION)
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To: Terriergal
Hahaaa, I miss you in the ag room.

How is yer new puppy?

179 posted on 11/02/2003 4:39:53 PM PST by carenot
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To: FairOpinion
Michael Schiavo's life in limbo??\

Ha, what a joke.

How about Terri's life being in limbo for countless years?
180 posted on 11/02/2003 4:41:07 PM PST by Salvation (†With God all things are possible.†)
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