Posted on 12/17/2002 7:32:02 AM PST by HairOfTheDog
Come on! Come in! -if you would like to have some seedcakes and a pint and relax a while. (If it is a special occasion, we still have a few bottles of the old wineyards left!)
Our first thread ( New Zealander builds Hobbit hole ) reached 4,100 posts, and we thought that was big. Our second thread (The New Hobbit Hole ) held us for over 48,000 posts, and we loved it dearly. We talked about moving to a new thread for the last 38,000 posts, but we are really slow to muster! Finally, the time has come. Tomorrow (at 12:01 am, to be precise!) The Two Towers comes out, and we start a new chapter.
I can see how that would be uncomfortable to a wife. However, having a look at FR as a whole would probably indicate that we have a higher than normal moral fiber here. On this thread, while we ponder on the LoTR men often, we do know how to keep our comments in line - mostly. The caring nature of our relationships are reflected often in the prayers and concerns for one another.
All in all, I think we are probably a more trustworthy cross-section of American single women than you'd find most places.
okay, so I don't know you all in person. and i may be wrong. but i worked as a divorce recovery minister for long enough to read some signs.
Whoops, I reread what I wrote and it read like it could be taken the wrong way. I hope you don't think I was complaining.
I am glad she'll be at the next one. Should we bother to wait until next January?
These two are intertwined, and I understand them. You are with her at home, and yet you want to be laughing and talking and venting and such with us. I can see why that makes her feel a bit jealous of this "thing" she can't understand.
I don't have that conflict (although the Pet Psychic may tell me otherwise if I asked her) and I don't know her, so I can't give you advice really, except to say that in a sense, it isn't any different that real friends that you suddenly wanted to meet and talk to after work every night for a few hours. If you can't include her, then you would be smarter to go home than to pull that very often.
2) Because it involves (some) single persons of the opposite gender.
3) Because she knows people who have left their spouses for "online" mates.
First of all, I will promise to end this problem as soon as possible! But really, this is a matter of trust and context. I am sure she knows many more people whose marriages broke due to "real-life" encounters at the office, but she has come to grips already, I would guess, with the fact that you have to have a job. We are a long ways away, and much less available to you than the secretaries at work. I think I can also speak for the entire group when I say that none of us go for married men, or married dwarves.
4) Because she thinks people obsessed with LOTR need to "get a life".
Maybe it is a weird hobby. I don't know if it will help or hurt the case to tell her that we all share things and ideas that are not just LoTR, because it is probably that "more" aspect that leads to fears 1-4.
I guess my advice would be to be more interested in her than us when you get home, but that I don't think that means you have to give us up completely, just make sure that she knows you share the really important stuff with her first. There is no rush to get back to us, we will always be here, even if it takes a funkle to catch up.
It was at the cleaners. You have NO idea how easily those white wings attract dirt and dust.
Right Suzi? ;^)
(She'll probably see this later....)
You know, I don't know if this will help or not... and I don't want to preach to the choir. But, your name tells us all something significant about your family and I am going to connect this reason #4 with your name.
I have a pretty unique call in ministry but belong to a pretty fundamentalist denomination too. Sometimes folks in my church question me about some of my hobbies such as LoTR (and others.) But, because I work with a lot of young people as well as people in fringe socio-economic type groups I have to find some common ground for evangelism. LoTR is perfect when people know it. I have also used the books as lessons for my cell group.
Maybe if your wife saw more of that aspect of LoTR we wouldn't seem quite as obsessed. ???
maybe no important info here... you may ignor if it doesn't seem worthwhile.
Yikes! That wouldn't be an Al-Qaeda cell, would it?
Yeah! I'm going to show up unannounced at your house some day and really freak Steve out! Take you out to the Krispy Kreme to play your whistle! And you'll have to have your perfect cloak on - the midnight blue one with the white wool dress. And I'll wear my elf cloak (reminder to self - make an elf dress before going to 2J's) Then you'll never be allowed to have the computer on again. ROFL
no no not really....
ROFL (doing that a lot this afternoon)
That would be my single women's Bible study home cell group. AND BTW - I did the lesson before the films were even started so none of us single women had a clue how great all those men of Gondor looked to PJ.
Looking back..... I don't think I could do that lesson now.... and certainly not with a straight face and clean thoughts. oh my.
Awwww....do I have to get a life? < /whine >
The scary part is. After living in this new place for a year now..... when I started talking to ya'll WAS when I thought I got a life here.
obviously totally guilty.
apologies for that.
YA'LL CAN ALL COME BACK NOW... I'M GOING HOME FOR THE DAY!!
I am completely swamped with work right now, so I'll post later on if I can.
If not, I'll be back in the morning! :)
I'm single and don't answer to anyone so I can't really relate with having to deal with a spouse/steady and the whole online relationship thing. I flew to Cleveland last year to meet people I met online. I was never nervous because we had formed tight friendships already. And it was for an online game we did, not a "20-something general chat" board or something like that where all they are looking for is who to have sex with next. Different forums draw different types of people and I would totally feel at ease with people on here and hopefully your spouses will see that too.
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