Posted on 10/16/2002 2:13:54 AM PDT by notbinladen
October 15, 2002
U. S. House of Representatives Washington, DC 20515
To The Honorable Fortney Pete Stark:
On July 14 this past Summer my wife and I, under great “stress” from being blessed with two healthy and beautiful children Nicolette, 2 1/2, and Elanor, 1 year old, as well the ever increasing challenge of making ends meet in today's California and indeed these United States... we entered into a shouting match that climaxed with her crossing the line and attacking me with several blows to the back and side of my head. I got up from my reading position and tried to escape but was hindered by a safety knob I'd recently installed to protect our two-year old from wandering out the front door. Hajnalka, my wife (Hungarian) continued her assault and even intensified it with a piece of furniture (a child's swing set). The pain of her repeated blows, and also the emotional distress of being so violated by the person I love and with whom I parent two children, caused me to react with what was in my opinion, perfect self defense. With reasonable force, I guided her flailing body out of the path of my escape and into the wall behind her. She desperately grasped my arms and wrestled me to the floor. Using my weight I subdued her long enough to escape... –Expensive medical examinations (MRIs, etc.) ordered by the social worker team that arrived to the “rescue” concluded no bodily injury or trauma.
After being attacked, in my winded and emotionally devastated state I found myself dialing 911. I requested the operator send an authority to my house, because I needed help.
Mr. Stark, when the police arrived they looked right past me. My wife had simultaneously called the police from her cell phone (during the time she now claims she was “unconscious”). She had a visible bruise on her wrist, obviously unrelated and probably self-inflicted from her earlier banging on a bedroom door I had locked to escape her first-thing Sunday morning rant, and the police woman zeroed in on that to begin a terroristic interrogation of both my wife and me, with the threat of taking away our children as a consequence of not giving her a "straight answer". Still angry, embarrassed, and now frightened, my wife devised the "I don't know what happened, I hit my head" defense.
From that very instant my life, my family's life, including my immediate family and ederly parents, and my business that facilitates supporting my stay-at-home wife and children, have been turned upside-down. Here three months later, I have been restrained from my home and disallowed any contact with my wife. The first time automatically; and now because my wife flew off the handle again, with even more violence this time: and phoned the DA to say I was harassing her, all because I was religiously following a “no harrass” order and leaving everytime her voice raised above a normal level-- "I'll call and get a restraining order if you leave," she would shout to my back.
...My legal defense bills are in the stratosphere. My impressionable children are being mentally tortured and denied the happy life we provided them (regardless of my wife's and my personal differences), and I am literally writing you from a hotel room that I can no longer afford. This, as you may have already guessed, after being arrested that fateful day, jailed for 60 hours, placed under ex parte restraining order until a hearing nine days later, and now, after the District Attorney and her assistant methodically ratified and exacerbated my wife's apparant affliction with post-partum Borderline Personality Disorder (she is attending a therapist) all in my opinion in complete and utter hatred of me and my penis, with never having heard a word from me in private or in court (only my attorney whom I had to hire, since the charges brought was felony) and I simply cannot escape the fact or the feeling that I have been bowled over by a pendulum that has swung too far...
I need your help. I want you to hear me. I have no criminal record; I don’t use drugs or alcohol; and, I have not history of violence toward anybody. I want you to assist me or direct me in first salvaging my self and therefore my wife and two children from being "public property", on welfare, hospitalized, and worse. I want to help the multitude of others in my predicament, and those that might be, get out from under or to preferably avoid entirely, this iron fist that has become the movement to fight Domestic Violence.
...What can I do for my country?
Please, please please help us.
Sincerely,
Frederick Douglas, August 4, 1857
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