I agree with you on all of this. I am a divorced parent with two kids in their early 20's. I have done some stupid things in my life. I can relate to both sides.
Well, maybe I can. It's a bit of a stretch to relate to the vD's. I try to in my mind, but I can't quite get there.
My inability to get there keeps bringing back to the vD's as "something is wrong here". To say the least, their part in all this stinks. It smells worse than a skunk.
As I have said in some previous posts, I think the porn evidence should have been excluded as blatantly prejudicial, and the vD "lifestyle" evidence should have been allowed in as the basis for an alternate theory of how the crime might have occured. If nothing else, it would have helped the jury get the whole, accurate picture of what was going on in the vD home at the time.
We're talking a cocaine dealer and who-knows-who-else coming and going from the house at all times of day and night. All kinds of prints, fibers, hairs, and DNA all over Danielle's bedroom. Not including DW's, however.
Nothing gets matched to anybody, Danielle included. Then the bedroom immediately gets meticulously cleaned, carpet-shampooed, and repainted.
To me, this is all very relevant to a determination of whether DW should be deemed by the jury to be guilty. I think it should have all been allowed in as evidence that the crime could have occured -- and most likely did occur -- some other way.