Exactly. Before I'd condemn the woman I'd like to see proof that she's harming the kid, and psychobabble won't cut it. IMHO the greatest damage being done to that kid is the prosecution and the attendant publicity.
OK, at what point does it become child abuse?
When the boy is 10, 12, 14?
When would YOU step in, (providing you could do it legaly)?
Or would you just ignore it?
Tough call, but obviously at some point something must be done (15, 17?)