[Balto_Boy]

I think because that's what she was asking for having babies out of marriage. Was she trying to trap dad? It's about the woman's responsibility for the actions she takes. If she's any kind of responsible woman she will do just fine.

What about the responsibilty of the father? It doesn't matter what the mother's motives were, because a man has to understand that his actions can result in a baby even if precautions are taken. His child shouldn't have to suffer because of his "failure" to do so.

Lot's of poor baby boys grow up without fathers, or mother's for that matter, and do just fine.

I'm sure you could work without pay for 1 month and do "just fine", but I'll bet you wouldn't let your employer off the hook for it. Why should it be any differnt for children?

In a perfect world, courtship, marriage, babies, mom and dad bring them up. But it is a far from perfect world.You really can't force, or sue anybody into being a good parent.

I guess not since being a "good parent" has to be a choice, but you can at least hold them responsible for supporting the babies they make. Why is that wrong?

[wingnuts'nbolts]

Your are a liberal, right? Write to someone who believes it takes a village to raise a child. Your moralistic whine is rediculous. If the father is such a stand up guy let him take responsibility. If he is not then the child is probably better off with out such a sorry role model in his young life. Surely there are other family members who can fill that role, and if not, then Mom is in the hot seat.