[buccaneer81]

The circumstances of the break up tend to dictate how bitter and vindictive things can get. In my particular case, my wife had an affair. She's now shacked up with the guy and it's evident that he pulls the strings on alot of the crap she's been pulling. I don't know if he's insecure (hey, she cheated once, she can do it again) or what. Having to look at my son everyday probably doesn't help (he looks just like dear old dad). But it's not like I'd ever take her back. Outside forces always play a role in the aftermath of divorce.

[Taxula]

(hey, she cheated once, she can do it again) .....and she probably will. No wonder the guy is a wreck. One day she is going to do to him, what she did to you.

Don't misunderstand me. I love the traditional role of marriage. I am happily married to a wonderful man who treats me like a princess. I have had to dump many preconceived notions along the way in order to keep marital bliss. Perhaps because everyone these days goes into marriage with the idea that it is all joy, all unconditional love and romance, they are shocked into disbelief when they find it actually requires hard work.
That stupid 'ideal' along with generations raised without a clue as to hard work and commitment (honor and civility) have resulted in a complete break down of a very worthwhile institution.

Sadly, it does not exist within just one sex. Everything is so disposable these days. Children, husbands, wives, life in general. Those of us who believe in actually honoring your vows and doing what you say you will, are in a very small minority. It seems that honor and constancy are no longer valuable commodities. How heartbreaking.