$1000/month in child support and $1500/month in "spousal maintenance" for me X 5 years despite the fact that the ex was college educated (elementary education and immediately employable but she refused to work) and despite the fact that I single parented one of our two kids after the divorce by his choice. She paid nothing of course. Luckily, she was so dependent that she met a guy and married at year 3 out of the 5 and saved me two years of alimony. Because there were some assets involved, the attorneys quite naturally raped the situation for all it was worth and despite my attempts to get it settled, it took two years. I was the only one motivated to settle. Supposed it could have been worse but it was bad enough.
Heartfelt bump bro.....40K per year in total for CS and add ons like summer camp, medical, dental, extras and plane tickets....all to a woman who remarried a much older fellow who makes several million per year and she has about a 10K/month expense account, servants, weekend trips to Paris for "shopping" ...you name it. My pittance to her which is punitive for me is simply extra spending money for her. They got married the day our divorce was final. I went thru the immediate restraining order crap and all sorts of other pleasantries.
Now 8 years later, she acts like the children are a bother but of course would never give them up because that would mean capitulating to me.
My life now with wife #2 is a wonder and very nice and easy and we have a 2 year old Tasmanian Devil and another in the oven. I'll be 50 when the next one enters grade school. Scary in a way. I'm very blessed now but God forbid should something happen to my current wife, I doubt seriously I would ever remarry. I have now almost 4 children and can't afford anymore hence, marriage beyond this current very satisfying one is holds little allure for me. Women will always hold an allure for me but marriage...no.