Posted on 07/06/2002 5:00:19 AM PDT by buccaneer81
If your only bringing home 37% of your pay I wouldn't worry about keeping that job.I'd be looking into getting around this, otherwise your going to spend the next 13 yrs spinning your wheels in the mud.
Again, here where I live you don't have to be in the same school district, you only have to be able to get the child to the school he/she goes to, on time, every day. Maybe you could half the distance..... commute to work and drive your son to school the 2 or3 days hes with you.
He assures me that I am in the "zone" as far as the amount and that this is average in this area. And, talking to other men here, I believe it. And I don't have the money to file suit against the government to prove the constitutionality of the formula. Were I a billionaire, I would.
Giving up a 52k professional job with a company I've worked for and accumulated 12 years of seniority doesn't strike me as a particularly bright move. There are no jobs (unless you count truck driving or Wal-Mart greeter) where my son is now.
As far as halving the distance, that leaves me 35 miles from his school. My attorney tells me I need to live with a 15 minute drive to do shared parenting. And, even with shared parenting, some money would still go to the ex because she earns less than me.
Sadly, we are not a very organized bunch. But most guys are in the same boat as me. No money. (I still owe my lawyer $8500).
While I find it hard to believe a woman making 40k who shares custody is going to get support but in the event it does happen, how much could they possibly justify? you'd still come out better and have your child!
Those thong wearers must be the ones I haven't seen pictures of yet, so I don't really know if they're really thong wearers. :^)
So, if I read you correctly, the blame can be shared equally between men and women. Then why are the courts and laws so one-sided in favor of the women?
I hate to tell you this, as it might upset your comfy victimhood, but lots of people (men AND women) live with these kinds of battles on a daily basis. It isn't unique to you, and is generally referred to as "life" in the English language. I've been very disadvantaged most of my life, but you'll never see me stew in it or whine about it. I wish people would grow some spine; being pathetic is not an endearing characteristic, and is hardly conducive to overcoming the problems most people face in life. Women have problems unique to women, and men have problems unique to men -- so what?
Continuing to fight the good fight, and dealing with reality rather than whining about how reality is unfair, is a good starting point for a definition of "maturity". No matter how badly the deck is stacked against you, you have to stop making excuses and start taking responsibility for the decisions you make based on the hand you get. Period. Anything else is childish.
P.S. "troll" = "intentionally inflammatory for its own sake"
How true. I stayed a virgin til my wedding (3 weeks ago). When I was single, I discovered that, "I'm saving sex for my wife", is the best seduction line ever invented -- it really brings out the tigress-in-heat in some women -- except, of course, that I actually meant it.
Sadly, so-called Christian women were the worst offenders; non-religious women get tired of the endless seduction game and tend to be quite respectful of a man who decides not to play, or who quits playing. But churchy girls... Never mind. Suffice to say, thank God I found a real Christian. It took me 22 years of searching, though (from 14 to 38.)
That term ("troll") has been in use for a very long time on the Internet, and is a bastardization of the word "trawl". Apparently you haven't used the Internet very long. It has a similar genesis as the commonly used word "spam". Or do you think "spam" only refers to canned mystery meat as well?
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