Posted on 07/06/2002 5:00:19 AM PDT by buccaneer81
now i'm guilty; freeped all day instead of riding......
If I might ask, what is your age group? Both my wife and I were married once before, before we met. Both of our prior marriages failed in large part due to the juvenile behavior and expectations on all fronts.
When we met, she was 31 and I was 27, and we were both looking desperately for someone to grow up, and grow old with. Had we met 4 or 5 years earlier, we probably wouldn't have worked out, ourselves.
Speaking solely for myself, I know that at 25 I was nothing more than an adolescent who shaved more often. She recounts her younger days similarly.
Sometime around the middle of the last century, the worst of all possible combinations arose. Children matured physically at an ever decreasing age, and matured mentally and emotionally at an increasing age.
Works for me.
But it does bring into question your irrational fear of the "men's movement"
That also means you condemn any woman who leaves her husband..
Right?
LOL - mine did that (no sex) about two years before I finally packed up my daughter and myself and got out. And no - that wasn't why I divorced her. Why'd she do it? Don't know - never got an understandable answer from her about it.
It's true what you say but I've seen first hand sad cases for both genders and I'm not sure what law would be "fair". I've seen a sister-in-law who was a stay-at-home mother for 15 years find out her husband was cheating, he made $25 an hour, she had no resume and could find part time work paying $6 an hour. In her case I don't think it'd be fair to her to lose her kids since it was she committing adultery and the agreement for her not to work was mutual.
I also know a man who was in a similar situation --it was his wife having an affair and who wanted a divorce ---but she expected to take the kids from him and collect child support which isn't fair at all. The laws need to be changed, the one committing adultery shouldn't end up with the kids.
That's true and would be true in the reverse. Men don't want "boring" women who would make good wives, you can see all the examples in the singles bars how both men and women select their mates.
Maybe if you were a prize worth having, the worthwhile women would be clustered around you.
The guys on this thread whine more than Phil Donahue. If you want to be men, suck it up and get on things.
Pathetic
So9
not exactly my kind of manly activity, but each to his own.....
Now that I'm way out of my 20's, I say that's not necessarily a bad idea!
You have a point, but it would be hard to find a woman with any self-respect who didn't want her marriage to be very public and very official -- and not always with sinister motives, far from it.
One of the problems is that, no matter how discerning you may be, no matter how long the courtship or engagement, people just change. For example, you might marry a woman who is pure of heart but has one fatal flaw you failed to notice, eg. too easily influenced by her girlfriends. It might never occur to her to see you as a monster until these "friends" have put in countless hours convincing her that she's better off without you.
And then there's Iago...
Certainly.
Definately.. And of course these "friends" won't have to weary themselves working double and triple shifts.. Since they have the media, "education" and the court system to help them accomplish this task.
If you turn on the garbage disposal in your kitchen sink and then stick your hand in it, it's going to really screw up your hand and your life.
Now, is that a reason or an excuse to not put your hand in the disposal?
Now, is that a reason or an excuse to not put your hand in the disposal?
Excellent analogy!
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