[discostu]

But it doesn't matter what our instinct is. Civilization and society are the art of conquering our baser instincts. Our instincts don't include things like toilets and clothes either, but when we see naked people defacating in public we don't excuse the behavior as "merely following instinct". We have logic and reason and with those we can and regularly do conquer our instincts, but some people want the best of both worlds, they want the comfort of the stable relationship and the fun of the wild oats. If their partner is hep on this that's OK, every relationship makes it's own rules. But if you swore before God and witnesses to forsake all others then you should do it, if you couldn't then you shouldn't have (these are all hypothetical "you"s I don't like the depersonalized "a person").

[StolarStorm]

Agreed. But sometimes some of us let our minds rule our instincts to such an extent that we make ourselves miserable.