There are lots of decent, intelligent and grounded men here.
But some others are wallowing in self-pity and they just can’t seem to let go of it.
“they just can’t seem to let go of it.”
Now that you say that, I believe that is the problem. ... can’t let it go.
I could easily wallow in the pain of a bad marriage where the Air Force threatened to remove my ex from the home for abuse. But I WANT to be happy. I CHOSE to let it go.
Happiness is a choice.