Well, OK... She ended up with the teacher, who was surprisingly unattractive but quite intelligent. The guy was a true intellectual, with all the bona fides. They had a child, then divorced, as I understand it. It’s been a while now. Have heard off and on through the grape vine that she regretted screwing up a (very) good thing, ‘just because’. The whole thing kinda spun me out, having (I thought) known her for so many years and in different settings for years before we started dating. Felt very at ease and confident with her until the very, very end. Made it impossible to trust women, sadly. Perhaps illogical, but I’ve never honestly overcome it. So it’s been dogs, cats, and occasional forays into dating European women half my age.. Not terrible, but hardly as satisfying a simple, traditional home. To those out there who have someone they’ve built a life with, keep it up to the bitter end if at all possible! The grass is very rarely greener.
Thanks for the response.
It is not surprising that she got divorced a second time.
The manosphere has lots to say on situations like yours.
Women tend to be attracted to “leaders” of any organization or group—a professor would be an obvious leader in an education environment.
That is always a risk for married women who try to get additional education after marriage.
Some women are better able than others to resist the temptation to imitate chimp behavior in that regard.
In the “old days” many women may have been tempted but would have decided “no” because of the social consequences of cheating and divorce.
Those days are over—it is risk on for married men.
That means your lack of trust of women is appropriate and reasonable.