They’re not meant to be leaders. They’re proxies imposed upon a conquered people.
1) Women aren't comfortable with leadership. They generally feel comfortable making passive aggressive suggestions, which is not leadership. If they do want to be explicit in their leadership, they don't know how to do it and end up being Boss Bitches who just order people to do things on a whim.
2) Women aren't comfortable with following. Hey! Why aren't they in charge?? Who made you the boss? Her ideas are perfectly good! Fight the patriarchy and put her in charge!! She's not going to do what you say -- she's going to do it her way!
This can result in a crazy pendulum effect: I should be in charge! OMG! I can't handle this responsibility -- you should be in charge! Hey! Who made you the boss?I should be in charge! OMG! I can't handle this responsibility -- you should be in charge! Hey! Who made you the boss? I should be in charge!
I really think we need to find a way back to a one-income family. Find a way to make that work. Women an have total control of the home, and men can have control of the workplace. I suppose I'm a jerk, but after long observation, I am convinced that this makes the most sense.