Is it Time to Admit That Divorce Hurts Kids Big Time?

Intellectual Takeout ^ | July 29, 2025 | Walker Larson

[DoodleBob]

The progressive era and the advent of socialism brought on by the Depression got that started. Marriage became disposable…it is reversible, it can be undone. It’s caustic to women, and quoth Marx and Engels, “(t)he bourgeois sees his wife as a mere instrument of production. He hears that the instruments of production are to be exploited in common, and, naturally, can come to no other conclusion than that the lot of being common to all will likewise fall to the women.”

Marriage isn’t considered an irreversible bond in our culture anymore. The Commandments are no longer binding. Going to hell for sex outside of marriage is a figment of the imagination. God will forgive you; actually God is a woman…

We need to get people into a pre-1934 marriage mindset. From there, children can grow up in a home that isn’t lead by hypocrites, where religion is seen as VITAL.

[CondoleezzaProtege]

Yes it would do well for the CHURCH - every denomination - to address it.

[CondoleezzaProtege]

Because it involves heterosexual couples, divorce almost gets a free pass by some conservatives and conservative Christians…

When in reality, the *other* sexuality struggles conservatives are all too ready to highlight and call out instead - can often be traced directly to (heterosexual) divorce and familial brokenness. Spiritual and religious abuse of power as well. 😕

[Secret Agent Man]

Marrige reform is needed. Government needs to stop treating it as a revenue maker. Govt makes over 60 billion a year off divorce. Modern marriage is also the way the state controls its people. Marriage needs to be something the state no longer is involved in, as the state has corrupted it and turned it into both a control mechanism and a govt money making industry.

[irishjuggler]

Indeed. I know people in their 40s who are still angry and bitter about parents’ divorces that happened 25+ years ago.

[Secret Agent Man]

Chruches are not serious abkut marriage. They dont vet people being married. They dont give a realistic picture of what the reality of marriage is. They dont tell men the reality and they dont explain to the women what their responsibilities are and whats expected of them.

Its probably too late to get it corrected before Christ returns.

[vpintheak]

Selfish people, especially women, don’t give a rats behind. They chase after the lies that they’re somehow going to be happier. Fools.
I am a happily married man. The Mrs is a good woman. But I’ve had friends that have been hurt by delusional women.

[Secret Agent Man]

When people dont have skills to deal with relationships properly, thats what happens when life stresses occur.

Fact is people tend to mimic their parents, its what they see and hear, and usually see and hear again and again. A small number see and decide to reject whzt their parents do because they see it doesnt work and they dont want to be like that - but thats not the majority. Most do because its whzt they learned and think is normal. You get two screamers and you’ll eventually get divorce. You get a cheater in there because mom and/or dad did it, and you get divorce. You get a selfish gaslighter you get divorce. You get a marriage of convenience, or because a woman wants to stop working, or just want a baby because time is running out and they need a donor, you get a divorce.

[sushiman]

My mother should have divorced my father a long , long time before she finally did once we were all grown up and married . She put up with far too much from the jerk and we kids ( 6 in all ) were all scarred to various degrees by his treatment of my Ma , his alcoholism and verbal abuse .

[Varsity Flight]

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[Carry_Okie]

When divorce took off and marriage took a simultaneous dive is with the release of the pill.

[goodnesswins]

Guess I could be an expert on this...between my 2 parents there were 8 spouses...Yes, divorce hurts children, but so do parents who have emotional and mental problems.

[DennisR]

“The Case against Divorce” by Diane Medved is an excellent treatise on this issue.

[toast]

Yes. Some marriages are more damaging than divorce.

[Bethaneidh]

Kids hate Dads who are mean or disloyal to Mama. And they always know.

[AlaskaErik]

When I was 14 I was absolutely ecstatic when my parents announced they were getting a divorce. By then my mother and I were mortal enemies and I just wanted her out of my life. Life was so much better once she moved out.

[metmom]

No different than men who don’t give a rats behind.

It’s not an affliction that is specific to one sex.

Some men chase the lie that they be happier in an affair and so destroy their marriages, just like some women do.

Some men think women are their for their convenience and pleasure, just like some women do.

Some men are violent control freaks and put their wives in the hospital because of beating them. Women TEND TO control differently.

Both men and women need to grow up and act like responsible adults to make a marriage work. And one sex is not more guilty than the other. BOTH have lost their moorings and need to work to fix things instead of blame shifting all the time.

[metmom]

A household where the husband abuses his wife and kids is NOT a good environment to be in, and I don’t blame the wife for leaving. If he can’t control himself, that’s the only solution.

I have friends who grew up in homes like that and it definitely damages everyone involved.

[metmom]

My dad was not abusive to my mom. Never even heard him raise his voice to her. But he did something once that made her cry, which she almost never did, and I hated him for that. I was SO angry with him.

A friend recounts having his step dad beat his mom until my friend, as a teen, threatened to kill him in his sleep if he did it again.

THAT cannot be less damaging than divorce.

I am opposed to divorce, especially the divorce culture mentality we live in, but for a woman and children’s own safety, sometimes it is necessary.