What a mess!
You may be able to pretend you’re the opposite sex, but you cannot do it without consequences. God’s rules, not mine.
This has happened in normal families; lots of people use hormonal gels for legitimate purposes, but they have to be used correctly because they can be dangerous:
Precocious sexual development in a male toddler caused by unrecognized transdermal exposure to testosterone: case report and review of the literature:
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10653730/
Baby Girl Grows Micropenis: Is it true?: