If you truly love your parents take care of them yourselves. I stopped my life to take care of my father for 10 years 24/7, no vacations, no day off. You do what you have to do. It was the greatest joy of my life to care for him.
God bless you
Our mom had a stroke, and went into a county "long-term care" home. Even though it was supposed to be a "good" one, it was run by the same state-sponsored union goons as all the others. Mom quickly developed bedsores, there were strange/insane people roaming the halls, it often smelled of urine, etc...
We got mom out of there, brought her home, and Sis took care of mom full time, until mom passed.
Even though Sis can be difficult at times among our siblings, her care for mom and her sacrifice will always have my respect.
You are so right. I do not understand why people put their loved ones in institutions in the care of strangers. My sisters and I rotated care of my mother. it was such a blessing to be able to return some of the loving care she had lavished on me so many years before.