“A clip of the interview focuses on the lasting pain Hackman suffered when his father abandoned the family.”
WTF dude, you got to 95 and were STILL hung up on family stuff that happened 80 years ago? ... it’s not like you were starved or beaten ... sounds to me like you never grew up ... REAL ADULTS get move past mommy and daddy and get over this stuff, move on in life, and live it the best they can without a lot of whinging and whining about what mommy and daddy may or may not have done ...
I am fifty and only in the last few years have I been able to move past the hurt that my mother inflicted upon me.
I was employed in the mental health field for almost four years (until the Biden economy forced me to look for work that paid more). I was regularly working with adults, some older than I, who were still in recovery from things that happened when they were children.
Child abuse resonates and rings long into life. I suppose I'm very fortunate, I have had good people who God brought into my own life who have helped me move along. Others aren't so fortunate.
Oh, come on. First of all, in this clip he was around 74. And his dad just up and left without so much as an explanation. That kind of thing can rip at a boy's soul. Also when he was 30 his mother died in a house fire, so most of his life he had no parents at all.
ere STILL hung up on family stuff that happened 80 years ago? ... it’s not like you were starved or beaten ... sounds to me like you never grew up ... REAL ADULTS get move past mommy and daddy and get over this stuff, move on in life, and live it the best they can without a lot of whinging and whining about what mommy and daddy may or may not have done ...”
I disagree - Things and Events that hurt the individual are not so easy to out out of your life.
If you never had such an event in your life you would appreciate the lasting pain he was feeling.
For most people, what happens in your childhood can stay with you for the rest of your life. At some point you move on, but the memories remain and mold how you become an adult.
I guess it's better than havin a real azzole for a Father but mebbe that's the same thing. And it helps in some aspects. Ya learn to count on yourself instead of others.
If someone grew up with a good Father in the house it would be hard to be familiar with these things.
He wasn’t hung up on it- he became one of the world’s greatest actors in spite of his pain and even used it to further his career goals.
But that doesn’t mean the wounds heal.
You stay classy.
“WTF dude, you got to 95 and were STILL hung up on family stuff that happened 80 years ago?”
That sounds like something a person would say who did not take his responsibilities as a parent very seriously. Also sounds like what someone would say who used the failures of his own parents as an excuse to treat these responsibilities lightly.
Poor or absent parenting leaves someone else to make up for the job the parents won’t or couldn’t do. If no one steps up, which is often the case, children are likely to grow up and become menaces to society.
The relationship between a parent and child is supposed to be one of mutual love and support. Children are vulnerable and need nurture and protection. So are the elderly. The natural relationship should lead to a role reversal in which the children care for their elderly parents when they can no longer care for themselves.
Actually, Gene Hackman’s father used to beat him. Even as an adult, Hackman was prone to combativeness and would sometimes seek out bar fights. His accomplishments though show that he got past the hurts and defects of his childhood.
The thing’s my father did still bothers me..
This post was from days ago but I felt that the message needed to be addressed.
REAL ADULTS can be affected by childhood loss or abuse. Yeah, you can forgive the individual, but the results remain. You can recover. Your life goes on. But what happened to you doesn’t suddenly evaporate.
It’s like getting cancer. You can recover, but the experience affects you forever. You are never the same.
You are not a loser or a child if cancer affects you for the rest of your life. And you are not a loser or a child if parental abuse or abandonment affects you for the rest of your life.