My girlfriend and I are having a symbolic ‘wedding.’ She does not want to lose her health benefits — and I don’t want to lose my shirt. Is that wise?

My girlfriend and I don’t plan to get legally married nor married in the eyes of the church. We’re simply having a wedding to celebrate our love, but we are not signing any paperwork. I am concerned that my significant other would lose her state health insurance because she doesn’t work. To cut a long story short, I feel terrible that she’s utilizing a program for low-income people, but she has serious mental-health issues that are completely treatable but expensive. I make too much money for her to qualify for medical assistance if we marry, but not enough to absorb what I’ve calculated to be $35,000 a year in additional expenses.

We want kids eventually and I’m concerned that, given that I live in a state famous for treating men poorly in divorces, she’ll end up with at least half of everything I own despite the fact that I accumulated quite a bit in assets before we ever met. I’m also likely to accumulate quite a bit more in assets before we have a child, and it’s actually necessary or helpful that she stays home to care for said child. We agreed several years ago that it was best she stop working because she was in an extremely high-stress environment as a pharmacy tech that was exacerbating her mental-health issues.

My partner and I were together for 27 years. We decided against marriage for various reasons, but we were committed to one another, and we had everything legally fixed where all her holdings were in a living trust my holdings were added to the living rust and so there weren’t any problems. We were prepared for about everything you could be including health emergencies and such and I had to take care of her for the last six years of her life. I made sure she stayed home and I took care of her 24 seven. I don’t regret one moment of our life together and what we had. A piece of paper from the government does not validate how two people feel about one another and their commitment to each other. Legal problems and issues can be easily handled so that there are no problems for the surviving partner.

“The woman’s last name should be changed though.
Headship. I Cor 11”

Concur!
A very clear sign early on that
A-the man isn’t really following Jesus and she recognizes this
...or...
B- the woman is in rebellion to God’s order and cannot, or will not, submit to any man of God who loves and lives rightly.

I’ve walked away from relationships when that very topic was in conention. She wanted to be independent, or rule over, but I simply wanted the Biblical perspective.

Whenever I see people in the media where the husband and wife have different, or hyphenated last names, I already know some things.

Sadly, the world we lived in has changed and degraded so horribly. Society and social media has created created beta males who have no moral compass and therefore cannot be strong leaders. This has resulted in women having to reluctantly fill that empty void.

I remember, Chuck Smith asking; “if I pour the water out of this glass, what remains?”
The most common answer was; “nothing”
Not true!
Nature abhors a vacuum, so something must fill it.
AIR!

So too, when a man vacates his created leadership role through laziness, or sloth, or weak leadership, or whatever, it is left to the woman to fill that role.

And here we are today.

The decay of society.

Have a blessed evening.
May God’s Spirit be upon you as you rest and even more so tomorrow, in abundance.

I have a high school classmate who divorced her U S. Navy husband and got almost ½ of his retirement pay.

She met another, they fell in love but did not marry because she would have lost her share of her existence retirement pay. I’m 100% for not having sex outside of marriage, but told her what she was doing was not unbiblical in her situation she and her friend stayed very loyal to each other until he passed away a few years ago.

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