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I found out my boyfriend had 3 other girlfriends. Then I became friends with the other women. [130 "smart" women all thought they were this guy's only romantic partner]
Business Insider via Yahoo ^ | August 2, 2024 | Kelly Burch

Posted on 08/03/2024 1:22:48 PM PDT by grundle

I met my ex on a dating app in 2020. I was ready to settle down, and he seemed to be too, so things got serious quickly. We bought a dog and picked out an engagement ring.

Then, it all fell apart when I learned he had three other girlfriends, all of whom thought they were exclusive with him.

I have a doctoral degree in public health, specializing in social and behavioral sciences. I'm a smart person, so I blamed myself for missing the signs — though even in retrospect, I couldn't see any.

Almost immediately, I realized there were only a few other people who could understand what I was going through: My ex's other girlfriends.

First, I told the three other women my ex had been seeing at the same time as me. All were very shocked, and none of them knew that he had been cheating on them. When I found out he'd cheated on previous partners, I messaged them, too. All in all, I got in touch with about 130 women.

All of the girlfriends were kind, compassionate, and smart. Most were Asian, like me, and professionals: lawyers, engineers, and artists.

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TOPICS: Miscellaneous
KEYWORDS: dating; dumbsmart; exsothergirlfriends; extinctionevent; ifoundhim; manosphere; men; missinggod; pua; redpill; smartdumb; vdsrus; women
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To: grundle

All in all, I got in touch with about 130 women.
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Well Samantha, look at the bright side. I think you might have found a new career... detective! I mean, that’s impressive!


21 posted on 08/03/2024 1:44:51 PM PDT by hecticskeptic
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To: grundle
Book smart or even professional smart doesn't translate into social/romantic smart.

She's not too smart by any and all metrics if she doesn't know this.

22 posted on 08/03/2024 1:47:34 PM PDT by RoosterRedux (“Thinking is difficult, that’s why people prefer to judge”, wrote Carl Gustav Jung.)
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To: grundle

One can be smart and still be betrayed. He chose well-educated, professional women and quite a few of them. He’s a master at his game, sadly for them.


23 posted on 08/03/2024 1:48:12 PM PDT by skr (Righteousness exalteth a nation: sin is a reproach to any people. - Proverbs 14:34)
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To: grundle

” All in all, I got in touch with about 130 women.”

You maybe better get in touch with a gynecologist, you might have gotten a Parting Gift from romeo.


24 posted on 08/03/2024 1:49:22 PM PDT by PLMerite ("They say that we were Cold Warriors. Yes, and a bloody good show, too." - Robert Conquest )
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To: Jim W N

“Most were professionals: lawyers, engineers, and artists

Probably part of the problem.”

Most of the problem. They have worked hard and deserve what they want. Except for the “artists”, LOL. Most are pushing 30 and are now competing with 22 to 25-year-olds who have 5-8 more years of better fertility and hotter bodies. Good luck with that. It’s time to “settle” and make two people miserable. Maybe the anti-depressants will help.


25 posted on 08/03/2024 1:49:29 PM PDT by alternatives?
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To: grundle

Who’s gonna tell her?


26 posted on 08/03/2024 1:51:00 PM PDT by Romulus
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To: grundle

“I was ready to settle down,“

They thought it because they wanted or needed to think it. I’ll bet more than one person in their life was skeptical of ol’ Chad.


27 posted on 08/03/2024 1:51:05 PM PDT by TalBlack (I We have a Christian duty and a patriotic duty. God help us.)
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To: alternatives?
80% of the women are chasing 10% of the men. They all think they have earned and deserve such a man. When the 80% decide to settle, they are never really happy with their partner. That is why many men are walking away.

If you're a guy and one of these women comes along, not only does she think she's settling for you, she's also not going to get to that point until she's probably well into her 30s and all her youth is gone. Is this really what you want?....to be with a jaded woman who doesn't really want to be with you and therefore will have no qualms about dumping you?

No wonder so few men are interested in these kinds of women. They're really not offering much.

28 posted on 08/03/2024 1:51:25 PM PDT by FLT-bird
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To: alternatives?
80% of the women are chasing 10% of the men. They all think they have earned and deserve such a man. When the 80% decide to settle, they are never really happy with their partner. That is why many men are walking away.

You're 💯 right. The American society as it is in 2024 is not sustainable. Think of it like the Weimar Republic in the 1920s.

So what will happen to America in 10 years from now? If I have to guess, we'll become more like Estados Unidos so we'll become much more Hispanic. I think that's an improvement. Other possibility. We convert to Islam.

29 posted on 08/03/2024 1:54:29 PM PDT by MinorityRepublican
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To: grundle

130! Wow! Add all the people those 130 banged over the years and that last chick pretty much slept with all of them. Forget a bus you’d need a train to transport them to the reunion.


30 posted on 08/03/2024 1:55:07 PM PDT by TalBlack (I We have a Christian duty and a patriotic duty. God help us.)
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To: skr

“He’s a master at his game,”

I wouldn’t call him a master. It isn’t hard for a guy who is attractive, over 6 foot tall, and wealthy. The sad part is all these women throwing themselves at him are not doing him, or themselves any long-term favors.


31 posted on 08/03/2024 1:56:32 PM PDT by alternatives?
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To: grundle
Apparently not all "Unicorns" are female?

Who woulda thunk?

32 posted on 08/03/2024 1:57:45 PM PDT by ZOOKER
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To: ClearCase_guy
This leaves 20% of the men thinking, “I can have any girl I want and never have to settle down with any of them, because if I do, they’ll just divorce me and take half my stuff. Heck, I might as well have three girlfriends at the same time. There is no downside.

Other than having multiple girlfriends increases the likelihood the man will end up sticking his dick into crazy at least once.

33 posted on 08/03/2024 1:59:41 PM PDT by CatOwner (Don't expect anyone, even conservatives, to have your back when the SHTF in 2021 and beyond.)
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To: alternatives?

[When the 80% decide to settle, they are never really happy with their partner. That is why many men are walking away.]

Yes

and yes


34 posted on 08/03/2024 2:03:26 PM PDT by SaveFerris (Luke 17:28 ... as it was in the days of Lot; they did eat, they drank, they bought, they sold ......)
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To: FLT-bird

[to be with a jaded woman who doesn’t really want to be with you and therefore will have no qualms about dumping you?]

That’s a very true statement.


35 posted on 08/03/2024 2:05:54 PM PDT by SaveFerris (Luke 17:28 ... as it was in the days of Lot; they did eat, they drank, they bought, they sold ......)
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To: grundle

There have been movies about this, based on real situations. In the end, the women become unified and the revenge is sweet.


36 posted on 08/03/2024 2:06:59 PM PDT by MayflowerMadam (It's not as if Biden has the nuclear codes or anything. 😳)
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To: alternatives?
They have worked hard and deserve what they want.

Disillusionment and lousy marriages. Rots a Ruck.

37 posted on 08/03/2024 2:08:00 PM PDT by Jim W N (MAGA by restoring the Gospel of the Grace of Christ (Jude 3) and our Free Constitutional Republic!)
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To: grundle

So many pajama boys out there….real men have there pick I suppose


38 posted on 08/03/2024 2:13:30 PM PDT by Vaquero (In Don't pick a fight with an old guy. If he is too old to fight, he'll just kill you. )
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To: grundle

So many pajama boys out there….real men have THEIR pick I suppose


39 posted on 08/03/2024 2:14:16 PM PDT by Vaquero (In Don't pick a fight with an old guy. If he is too old to fight, he'll just kill you. )
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To: grundle
I'm a smart person,

Ego and vanity are apparently independent factors separate from intelligence.

40 posted on 08/03/2024 2:14:21 PM PDT by pfflier
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