we all live in glass houses my friend.
Some of us don't kick and beat on the small, helpless ones in our care.
Children are a gift.
You abuse the gift, you lose the gift.
I know people on the thread have made up all sorts of stories to excuse her in their own heads but as a parent and as a person she is defective. Time will not change her. The only thing that changes a person is a true religious experience or a head injury. And no, for that kind of behavior I do not believe in second chances.
You think you are being nice but you are actually leaving a child, the only innocent one in the situation, in hell.