I agree, Prince.
Stay with your kind. You don’t have to agree on every single issue, but a few key ones are:
Your religion and how devout you are
How you handle money
Your approach to work
Open marriages
Abortion
Guns
If you can agree on those, a lot of smaller issues will follow or you will compromise.
A devout person who believes in the sanctity of marriage will never be happy in an open marriage no matter how much gaslighting they get.
A committed worker who lives within their means will never be happy with a sybarite who blows their paycheck every week, etc.
Recipe for disaster.
Religion: I could imagine being married to someone raised in a different faith, and still devoted to that faith; purely ideological differences based upon differing interpretations of Scripture (sometimes as picayune and legalistic as the placement of a comma in a Biblical quote), or perhaps simply accepted as matters of Dogma, will not necessarily result in incompatibility.
Money: If the husband is the primary breadwinner and holds the purse strings, then his views and values should prevail. In a completely symmetrical arrangement, differences in attitudes towards earning, spending, and saving could be brutal.
Work: Again, assuming a traditional division of labor and roles (husband = breadwinner; wife = housewife), this shouldn't be a source of friction.
Sexual fidelity: I am appalled that that one item should even have to be listed.
Abortion: For me, this is a shibboleth - in the sense of: a means of dividing the sheep from the goats. I don't accept the bogus argument that, because males can't become pregnant, we should be allowed no say in the matter (NOTE: Roughly HALF of all aborted babies are males). But I understand that females will almost always have a different feeling on the matter.
Guns: Another shibboleth, but more in the meaning of: Gives one insight into a far deeper political attitude which a person might harbor.
Regards,
Amen.