Religion: I could imagine being married to someone raised in a different faith, and still devoted to that faith; purely ideological differences based upon differing interpretations of Scripture (sometimes as picayune and legalistic as the placement of a comma in a Biblical quote), or perhaps simply accepted as matters of Dogma, will not necessarily result in incompatibility.
Money: If the husband is the primary breadwinner and holds the purse strings, then his views and values should prevail. In a completely symmetrical arrangement, differences in attitudes towards earning, spending, and saving could be brutal.
Work: Again, assuming a traditional division of labor and roles (husband = breadwinner; wife = housewife), this shouldn't be a source of friction.
Sexual fidelity: I am appalled that that one item should even have to be listed.
Abortion: For me, this is a shibboleth - in the sense of: a means of dividing the sheep from the goats. I don't accept the bogus argument that, because males can't become pregnant, we should be allowed no say in the matter (NOTE: Roughly HALF of all aborted babies are males). But I understand that females will almost always have a different feeling on the matter.
Guns: Another shibboleth, but more in the meaning of: Gives one insight into a far deeper political attitude which a person might harbor.
Regards,
- Ogden Nash
Abortion is MURDER!
I’m a very traditional woman who, on the day I married, vowed to be faithful to my husband until death us do part. I meant it and have kept that vow through thick and thin over 30 years. My husband is the love of my life.
I see fidelity as one of the cornerstones of marriage.
There are lots of young people out there now who think open marriages are the “in thing.”
I see it as grounds for divorce.
Unfortunately, in this day and age, something that used to be considered as a given now must be confirmed beforehand.
Sad, isn’t it?