“abusive military man”. Nice cop out. If anything he probably got pissed at her for spending money they don’t have.
Ha, ha, I agree with you. It sounds like she ran up the credit card and did not understand why it was so wrong. A spouse can destroy a military person's career by mishandling money.
I cannot tell you how many times I had to tell my subordinates that they were responsible for their spouses debts. And bad debts would prevent would prevent them from going to career enhancing tours.
I had my Battalion chaplain come to me to complain that one of my personnel were withholding money from their spouse. I called my Marine in and then called the chaplain. My Marine laid out how he set up a budget (showed us the budget), and asked what he was doing wrong. Both the chaplain and I said, "Nothing. Carry-on." Needless to say, they were divorced soon after. The wife had no concept of how money worked and did not want to know.
I agree with you.
No tainting the water here and painting the military as scum, is there?
Unfortunately, this downward spiral came with a bunch of self-destructive coping mechanisms, including hundreds of dollars of in-app purchases, lots of fast food, vaping, and over-drafting her bank account.
Idiot shouldn't have bought a car she couldn't afford nor wasted the money on the *self-destructive behaviors*.
Sounds like the husband is coming out ahead in spite of the alimony it's going to cost him.
That’s one dumb broad.
My thinking is she is a Dependapotomus. Got in with a lonely, naive, E3 to score the benefits then realized how crappy military life can be.
Years ago my wife was a Loan Officer and Collections Agent for our base Credit Union. She never used names but told me story after story of dependent wives thinking that if there were checks in the book then they could just write one for whatever they wanted. They were also the same people who though the money that came out of ATM's was free.
This could be true but there are other sides to the story sometimes.
One of my nieces got married just after turning 17 when she got pregnant. She married the father, but it didn’t work out. He couldn’t hold a job, drank and smoked pot heavily and was cheating on her to boot and she got a quicky divorce.
I guess you could call it a re-bound, but she reconnected with a young soldier who she’d know in HS and “fell in love” almost immediately and eloped with him. She left her daughter with her parents while she got settled with her new husband who had just been stationed at a base in South Carolina.
She found that base housing was terrible, and she felt isolated, he disconnected and took their phone when he wasn’t home so she couldn’t call anyone, she had no transportation, no money except the few dollars he gave her for groceries at the commissary, and it didn’t take long before he was beating her; beating her for not keeping the apartment clean to his satisfaction, for not cooking to his liking and sometimes according to her, beating her for no reason at all.
She met another military wife who after seeing her black eye and bruises, got her in touch with a counselor on base. It turns out her new husband was on the verge of being booted from the military with a dishonorable discharge for his numerous disciplinary problems.
The military paid for her airfare to go back home to PA to her family. She got an annulment.
She made many bad decisions by the age of 20 but she didn’t deserve to be beaten.