You’re totally right about the fundamental dynamic, but Xmas cards to make others feel bad?
Maybe not a great sentiment or activity for such a season.
Humans are humans and always have been. Some personality “foibles” have become more prevalent in the modern world, but none of us is foible-free.
Not to make someone feel bad.
Rather, to illuminate the problem.
A true NPD will be thankful for the photo, oblivious to the problem. BPDs might get angry though.
In the end, is this worse than someone sending a selfie, all about them and only them?
My phoney psychopath of my “eldest” sister “the queen” sends out a christmas letter every year, more than half of is made up to sweetened up enough so she can regale in her narcissistic fantasy land...
All the relatives know she’s warped, the middle sister cushions the expectations and rumors of the cousins, me? I just stay out of it. I know my older sisters is pathological so I just stay away from the weirdness off it all.