Ah, but they are unfailingly polite and won’t presume to tell us how to do it.
We’ll eventually ask, but, again, I’d like to start most formal and let them be the ones to chop it down.
“I’d like to start most formal and let them be the ones to chop it down.”
That’s smart. Much like when in doubt, over-dress for an event. Less chance of being embarrassed.