Posted on 08/08/2023 4:49:12 AM PDT by aquila48
Settling in a relationship is a concept often misconstrued and widely debated. It refers to the scenario where an individual remains in a romantic partnership not out of deep love or satisfaction but rather due to various factors such as fear of loneliness, societal pressure, or simply the comfort of familiarity. This action, over time, has significant implications on a person’s emotional health, personal growth, relationship dynamics, and even other aspects of life. The following sections will delve into these aspects in detail, offering a comprehensive understanding of the consequences of settling and providing strategies to avoid this circumstance.
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1 Understanding “Settling” in a Relationship
2 The Psychology Behind Settling
3 Emotional Consequences Of Settling
4 Impact On Relationship Dynamics
5 Effects On Personal Growth And Self-Actualization
6 The Ripple Effect: Impact On Other Areas Of Life
7 Not All Compromise Is Settling
8 How To Avoid Settling
9 Conclusion
10 Related
(Excerpt) Read more at relationshipsmag.com ...
No such thing as a “soulmate”.
You find someone “good enough” and then you make it work.
Some times even when they aren’t good enough.
two bug misses right here...for money and/or for sex.
It’s cheaper to keep her.
No it's not. Not always.
Of course, there’s no money to be made in saying these kinds of things.
Yep, everybody thinks there are a lot of "fish in the sea", until they're not.
For much of human civilization, marriages were arranged by parents, usually when the children were still very young. By and large, those arranged marriages worked out just fine. Probably a higher ratio of success than today.
That depends on who you are.
At my age, there are far more available women than there are men because men die sooner. Granted, one has to weed through a lot of seaweed and wreckage to find a quality fish (so to speak), but they're out there.
Also at my age, there are a lot of men who choose not to look preferring their hobbies, friends and social networks reducing the pool of available men even further. At our age we just prefer simplicity and don't want (or need...) the drama.
I consider myself quite fortunate to have found a quality woman at this stage of my life. I was one of those men who was quite happy on my own with hobbies, work and a social life to keep me more than busy. How she and I met was pure luck and sometimes that's just what it takes.
For most of human history, most people didn’t venture more than 50 miles from where they were born, so the pickings were quite slim.
Like the old joke, "Why do men die before their wives? Because they want to."
Feminist crap. /spit
That’s true, older folks are probably having a great time now, compared to in the past. It’s the middle-age folks who are suffering, but the good news is, once they reach 70, it’s “Party Time!” lol.
Theoretically, there is a “best fit” person on the planet at any one time for everyone. Finding that person is infinitely small and that “perfect” fit person changes over time.
One could call that person a soul mate. Just my 2 cents.
And if you're lucky, you might find them in oh say, about 10,000 years.
I wasn't going to go there, but I damn sure thought about it, LOL!!!
“Feminist crap?” Oh, Falvious, yo’re so harsh!
But exactly right. First, there’s actually a magazine called “Relationship Magazine?” Ugh.
Second, any objective analysis of the photographs accompanying the article is revealing. Ugh, again.
I'm 60, so I've some experience in this area. Women in their 50's through early 60's seem to be in one of the following categories:
1. Widowed. Some well off who don't "need" someone, but want someone to spend time with, travel and "maybe" develop something more permanent. Others are in dire financial straits and looking for someone to rescue them from it. There aren't a whole lot 'in betwen' from what I've seen.
2. Divorced. Here again, some well off after long term marriages that built up substantial assets and looking for something that may develop into something more permanent; some looking for flings; some looking to be rescued from their financial situation and some who just hate men and bash them every chance they get.
3. Never married. A fair number without children of their own, others with one (or more) children who are grown and out of the house. Some have a child still living at home - for whatever reason. Those without children tended to have good careers, traveled a lot for work, are often very well educated and financially independent. The never married w/children are in various states of financial distress mostly, occasionally you'll come across a few that have their lives together, kids were well raised, educated and are well adjusted. These women focused on raising their kids properly and put them first and is now looking to focus on herself.
By the way, we can replace "women" in all the above and replace them with "men" because I've seen that too.
I cannot see this getting any better for the younger generations and in fact, with their "everything is transactional" attitudes especially towards relationships and sex, it's only going to get worse as time goes on. At least my/our generation can form interpersonal relationships, we've been through some pretty tough times and know how to navigate our way through them.
These younger generations have been spoiled like crazy. They're so used to everything coming easily and now that they have to deal with adversity they fall apart and just whine. It's not going to be pretty.
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