Thanks probably the best advice I got today. So many of my Christian friends quote the proverb “Train up a child in the way they should go and when they are old they won’t depart from it.” But it’s not working for them either.
Just will add that they don’t start to see things in a more mature way until they have to.
Girls of ours matured faster than our son.
Once my son became a father, he changed and matured dramatically.
Our goal is simply to love them and have a positive relationship with them for life.
Parenting is done. Coaching now, sharing wisdom now when asked, encouraging and affirming them, and giving them the freedom to choose to live their own lives.
Kids fight control and harden against it.
In our (limited to 3) experience, they are attracted to affirmation and genuine relationship.
You have little influence without relationship.
Every kid and family are different.
And we’ve sure worked through difficult times. Life is good now.
Blessings to you.