at one point years ago, she went thru a stage, and I remember clearly we arguing for like 3 months straight aboit it, no romance in our relations anymore... no wooing, no compassion yada yada yada...
Well it seemed like the next morning, she id squirming against me. obviously a little anxious that morning. so I get up and start walking to the bathroom, and she says... “Where you going!??” I said to brush my teeth! She said, “You dont have to kiss me!”... I could not fkng believe it!! I said what!!??? After all we have just been through!!!?? She started laughing!!
From that day forward, I never once depended on her for a sound foundation to lean on... a few years later we're divorced. and I just heard she leaving her boyfriend of 6 years because he wont go to couples therapy with her!! Poor bastard...
Because then you are trapped. If you do buy her flowers, she pouts and says "You only bought them because I had to bring the subject up." But if I don't buy her flowers, it's because I don't listen to her!
You just can't win!
Since my wife and I pool our finances, I always feel silly buying her things on my own because I am using "our" money to buy them. One time I got a big box of chocolates for Valentine's Day at a chocolatier in Manhattan. It was something like $74.99 plus tax. Right away I start getting the texts because she gets a text everytime I use one of our cards.
"What was that $100 you just spent in New York for?"
I wanted it to be a surprise because Valentine's Day was still days away. But she finally wore me down and got it out of me. I said "OK, it's a box of chocolates that I wanted to surprise you with for Valentine's Day." So now she's upset her surprise got ruined!
Oh well, I realized a long time ago that YOU JUST CAN'T WIN!
All in all, we get along fine and we are still married after 36 years but there are moments...