There’s more to this story.
Why did the daughter drop out?
What was the boyfriend like?
Was she using drugs?
Many other variables...
As parents, we do not owe our children free college. When each of my four children were entering 9th grade, I explained that their high school grades were for them to get scholarships. That’s how they earned and paid for their college.
They all worked at the same time, even in high school. All but one were super successful, because of their own initiative.
The youngest one was babied by my ex wife and never had to be responsible, got into drugs and hung himself.
I’m very sorry to hear what happened with your youngest. I wish you all the best.
That’s tragic about your youngest. My sympathies, FRiend.
I’m watching this now with the courts favoring the mother IN ALL CASES of divorce, and the kids then getting literally spoiled and confused, and the fathers not allowed to discipline the kids fairly with the hard facts of life. That’s not to say all fathers are worthy or all mothers put sentimentality above integrity—conservative mothers are sensible, as earlier posts in this thread bring out. But liberal women often ruin their kids. I’m all for women working in ways that are prudent for her family; but there’s a reason God did not want women running the church—or the family.
That said, I hope your other kids give you solace, joy and grandchildren. Be blessed.