Posted on 02/10/2023 5:10:21 AM PST by grundle
Video description: "I've given up on the world because most people are so tainted, so nasty" says the 30 year old single mother of a 13 year old son.
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There’s something wrong with professional women these days. I’ve seen this happen even where the father had a great economic future and wanted to marry the mother, and the mother was already raising a fatherless kid.
No but I imagine one of those black women he insulted killed him!
“She already has another child from a previous relationship with a different man.”
That should’ve been a big red warning flag. A walking petri dish of biodiversity.
She’ll make it right by turning her son into a part girly man part pet.
She made a major error.
Now she has two choices:
—She can blame everyone else for her problems and get mad at them when they don’t bail her out....
—She can take responsibility for her failures and focus on becoming as beautiful and pleasant as she can be, so folks will want to be around her—and maybe some decent guy might want to marry her.
There are plenty of good guys out there; women keep them in the friend zone. They chase a wallet with a man attached.
My marriage is not a ball and chain. It is a loving supportive partnership. I am proud to be the wife of such a fine man and we have been together for 33 years.
If a woman married a louse, that’s on her. She picked him.
Good post and what I'm about to say about the comment above is going to ruffle some feathers. For a marriage to work, one spouse must learn to submit to the other. That is to say, there can only be one "head of household."
I compare the relationship with my wife as that on a naval ship. On any naval ship, there is a Captain and an XO (executive officer). That is because having two captains just doesn't work. That analogy works on all situations by the way. There can only be one CEO for a company. There can only be one pilot on a plane (the other being a co-pilot).
Now the XO on a naval ship commands a lot of power and a good captain will always listen to the advice of his XO. That said, the ultimate decision lies with the captain. The crew members on the ship also typically fear the XO more than the Captain because the XO is the disciplinarian who carries out the captain's orders and gets things done.
My wife was an excellent XO when the kids were growing up. She ran a pretty tight ship on the homefront. She also gave me excellent advice that kept me from making some big mistakes. But there were other times that I had to overrule her, such as relocating to a new city for my job. She did not want to move but I decided that moving was best for my career path and my ability to support the family, so we moved...and it worked out pretty well.
Now there are some families where a FLR (female led relationship) works best. While growing up, the family that lived next door to us was definitely in a FLR. The husband was a solid, hard-working guy but very meek and submissive around his wife. She clearly made all the major decisions and the husband dutifully submitted to her guidance and leadership. Back then we would say that she "wore the pants in the family" but things seemed to work out pretty well for them and they seemed pretty happy together. So good for them.
My point is, for a marriage to work without constant fighting, discontent and unhappiness, one of the partners needs to accept being in a subordinate role. Othwerwise, you will always have that tension between you.
Of course, both partners, whether dominant or submissive, need to respect and honor each other. I am not at all saying that one of the spouses needs to be a "doormat." If you have a potential spouse that wants to walk all over you, run away!
**That’s why marriage is supposed to precede sex.**
I’ve posted a summary, several times here on FR, of a private little speech my mother gave me the evening of my 16th birthday. I had gotten my drivers license earlier that day, and this farmboy was going to town that evening to cruise with friends. She locked her eyes onto mine with a look that was deathly serious. The speech was too.
I was 24 and my wife 21 on our wedding night when we clumsily learned the ‘process’.
I had a great mom.
take responsibility for her life, raise her offspring to be law abiding and self sufficient, quit being a victim, get off my payroll, keep her offspring off my payroll
...for starters
yes, the breakdown of the nuclear family was a major goal of the left and they have succeeded. Kids today have many problems because of the lack of a father figure in the home. Little johnny would not be ātransitioningā if he had a caring father in the house.
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No mention of the “father figures” who go off to chase women or “come out” as gay and fight paying child support and never see their kids........
Too many women base their life decisions on what they think may get approval from their female peer group. Marrying a man, who the hen party is unimpressed with, will earn disapproval. Staying a "strong independent woman" will not.
Some of my wife's friends disapprove of me, thinking I'm too domineering and misogynistic. My wife doesn't care, because I keep her happy.
My daughter had the talk was not a wild child in high school but still managed to get pregnant at 17. She had the baby, stayed in school, graduated and entered college to become a nurse. We helped her and her church reached out with love, forgiveness and support to her and her baby and she stayed in church.
The dad was in high school and as I put it “baby went slumming” to my wife. He was and is an ongoing useless pest. He’s dropped out of college and now on his 6-7th job and doesn’t want to pay child support, $60 a month wow! But he wants visitation rights and went to court to get them.
I told my daughter when the baby was young, you are going to be there and up with him at 2:00am and you are going to stay in school, and work. You don’t need to drag one boy after another in on your son and confuse him. She graduated, worked many late hours as a waitress at Pizza Hut and we watched the baby. My wife worked three jobs to pay for the day care and extra costs.
To my daughters credit she didn’t date for two years and while in college started talking to a guy who was a year older than her and had just been discharged from the Army with a severe injury two weeks before basic training ended. During training with full pack he stepped into a leg deep hole and the other leg of course popped straight out, lots of pain, medical treatment and PT.
After dating for three or four months she introduced her son to the guy, long story short they dated for another two years, she graduated college as a nurse and they married and he loves and takes care of her son like his own. Baby daddy is still bitching about $60 a month child support.
Your daughter’s story is one of making right choices after a poor choice. God bless her and your whole family.
“...We helped her and her church reached out with love, forgiveness and support to her and her baby and she stayed in church...”
Thanks for sharing that story and glad your daughter eventually found a good husband.
He is not helping either the women or the men. His high falutin’ attitude is highly condescending. Who died and made him the ace of counseling?
This is the problem. Sluts have kids that we then have to support.Better than killing it, but it just makes for another feral we'll have to deal with later.
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