Those males want to be good men, for the most part. They are just receiving bad messaging on how to be one. So, they try to live up to society’s standards and then wonder why women find them unattractive.
You are both smearing decent Christian guys, in your posts.
I know many Christian men who had difficulty finding good Christian women. Some still haven’t. I know one could do some things to better his situation, but the Christian women pickings are few, where he lives, as well.
I had problems finding the woman who would become my wife, too. Part of it was that I believe divorced women (and men) should stay single, or reconcile, as Paul stated. I believe marriage is until death, as do some of these men.
No “incel” among them.