You are both smearing decent Christian guys, in your posts.
I know many Christian men who had difficulty finding good Christian women. Some still haven’t. I know one could do some things to better his situation, but the Christian women pickings are few, where he lives, as well.
I had problems finding the woman who would become my wife, too. Part of it was that I believe divorced women (and men) should stay single, or reconcile, as Paul stated. I believe marriage is until death, as do some of these men.
No “incel” among them.
It isn’t smearing anybody. An Incel is simply a term for a male that cannot have a sexual partner or marriage, even though he wants to. That’s not an insult to him to be one.
Some of the reason for incelled males is societal, women have unreasonable expectations. 6’0 males are dateable and 5’11” males are not. Women would rather be part-time concubines to have access to a desired male than come down from Mount Olympus and seek a lesser mortal.
Some of it is due to some males not having strong male figures to role model off of. Some of it is because they have received the wrong messaging as to what women desire.
Men should work on themselves, but some men are hopelessly without the ability to mate. TYraditionally, we would send these men off to war to die.