“If you don’t have the desired qualities upfront, you’re going to be cock-blocked before you have a chance to even say a word.”
The way you beat that (let us say for example in a university setting) is you become the fun funny life of the party in the group setting.
That makes you socially acceptable even if you don’t meet the physical characteristics.
Women love leaders—and leaders come in all shapes and sizes.
In the chess club, for example, the chess club “leader” has a huge advantage over any competition, regardless of their height or other status.
In the war sense this is shaping the battlefield—using Sun Tzu tactics of retreating when the conditions are not right and attacking when the field is to your advantage.
In the old days many young men understood this—often learned it by osmosis in the military and could apply it in social settings.
You have great advice for young men.
I don’t get this hang up on height. It’s ridiculous.
I dated a young man for a year way back when. Mind you, this was when “dating” meant going out and having a good time...no sexual activity involved.
He was kind, courteous, witty, and a great dancer. He always had a perfect plan for weekends. It might involve a Broadway Show, a Yankees ballgame, dancing at the Waldorf Roof.
He stood 5’5” tall, and he was a fine man.
No, I did not marry him, but I still have all his letters to me, recounting life “On the Town”, in the New York City of my youth.
Yep! All my best "game" I learned in Boot Camp!
And the all-male environment of the military is the best venue to learn "dating rules."
Regards,