re: the clothing you can’t pull off anymore...... i agree 100% Too many older folks in clothes meant for the youngins’
( Jill and her fishnets! Old fat guys in muscle shirts)
Just get a good mirror.
I have always been a big believer in dressing to your strengths, enhancing those things that are assets, and not drawing attention to your liabilities.
Us fat guys wearing things we shouldn’t, is often a crime against nature. Overweight guys in T-shirts is an abomination of appearance. Wear a sharp untucked, non-form fitting shirt with a straight bottom. Clean and pressed. Women too, sometimes fail egregiously more so. I am thinking of yoga pants on the wrong female. Wearing a Moo-moo is suicide, but there are plenty of sharp looking clothes that enhance the female person.
One of the things I adore about my wife is she dresses in this fashion...I can always be proud of her appearance when I am with her, as she is not at all inclined to fashion, but more the classics, especially those that fit.
Someone who is out of shape but has great personal skills can go a long way by de-emphasizing their physical liabilities and promoting those things that work in their favor.